A wife has been criticised by strangers on the internet after she spoke to her friends about her husband's health condition.
Taking to social media to ask for opinions on her actions, the 32-year-old woman asked if she was wrong to tell her husband - who is 36 and has a chronic health condition - "to get over himself", when he was upset that she was discussing his 'private medical information' with other people.
On a Reddit forum, u/throwaway63677754 wrote: "My (female) friends come over since I can't leave the house during the night and we chat in the living room for an hour or two. My husband heard me talk about his health with my friends and seemed bothered.
"I told him I was just telling them about what's been going on, but he said I could keep it vague without disclosing his private medical info. I thought he was being ridiculous for this and thought he'd let it go but last night, he blew up at me after my friends left saying that I once again went and shared private medical info about him with his consent and despite him repeatedly asking me to stop.
"We had a loud argument where I told him off for policing my mouth and told him to get over himself since it wasn't like I was sharing his medical file online or stuff like that. I'm just venting to my friends.
"He's sulking and is refusing to let it go saying I'm violating his privacy repeatedly and disrespecting his boundaries. But I think he overreacted."
However, Reddit users largely agreed with her husband - and said that she was the one in the wrong. Major_Barnacle_2212 wrote: "He stated his boundaries. You disrespected them.
"Medical information is personal. He has the right to decide who knows it.
"Not you, not to vent. Honestly, I kinda think you needed to get over yourself."
And Emerald BlueZen wrote: "I'm sure you're going through some very difficult times and it really is helpful to share and vent with close friends. I get it.
"BUT your hubby specifically asked you not to. And instead of understanding and having a conversation with him, you basically told him to shut the hell up and you were going to share anything and everything you wanted to.
"Do your respect your husband? If so, why pull this stunt?"
Proud_Hotel_5160 commented: "I have chronic illnesses and I hated when my mom would share details with my family. At least it was just with my grandparents and uncle, and she would keep quiet with friends.
"I understand the need to talk about stressors in your life like loved ones' illnesses, but you can do it without divulging private information. And more importantly, you need to have a conversation with your spouse about what is and isn't okay.
"If they don't want you to acknowledge the illness with others at all, then look to a therapist who is legally bound to keep your information private."
DinaFelice said: "Your husband specifically requested that you stop sharing his private medical info, while specifically not objecting to you having conversations with your friends about what you are going through
"And your response to this reasonable request was not to discuss it with him, not to try to figure out a compromise, but instead to simply dismiss him as ridiculous?
"Your husband isn't policing what you say by declaring his personal medical info off limits. He's not saying you can't vent to your friends. He's saying that, when you vent, find a way to do it while being non-specific about his personal info. And frankly, if you can't find a way to do that for him when he is in a vulnerable state, you have much bigger problems than just this argument."
The original poster later said: "I'm not doing this deliberately. I just vent and they are my closest friends. What is he so worried about? That they'll share this with the whole city?!?!
"Besides, it's not like my friends or those who know us don't know he's sick. He can't even stand on his feet for more than a couple of minutes and everyone is aware of his condition and can tell by the physical state he's in/
"I'm his caregiver but family help out here and there. I'm open and accept judgement but was just trying to put more information to make things clear."
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