A woman sparked a debate after proposing to charge her husband a weekly fee to complete admin - with lots of people supporting her decision.
The couple has two children, with the woman explaining that she is a stay at home mum while her husband is employed as a tradesman.
Their earnings go into a joint bank account, but the man wants to revert to separate accounts, though his wife would have access.
The woman does almost all the housework, childcare and helps her husband out with life admin relating to his job.
After he got angry at her for thinking she had messed up his papers, the woman has proposed charging him a fee of £36 ($50) a week so she stops feeling like a maid.
After asking for advice on Reddit, the woman's proposal left people urging her to look at her situation.
She wrote : "I'm a stay at home wife, and mother of four, my husband is the breadwinner.
"This means I take on almost all of the housework, child-raising, and I try to do as much as I can so he can come home and relax as much as possible.
"One of the things I'm in charge of is all his admin. Whether it be updating his resume, booking him into courses/flights/appointments, arranging accommodation, sending off his application to jobs (he tells me which ones) and all the relevant paperwork that goes with it.
"If anyone ever gets an email from him, it's me. Usually, I don't mind this. I worked as a receptionist before we were married, and it's never really anything over-complicated that needs doing.
"Although sometimes it's difficult to do the tasks as quickly as he wants them done because I have to wrangle a gaggle of children.
"Well, today he rang me in a huff thinking I'd possibly jeopardised his upcoming new job by not sending in the correct paperwork.
"Even after I explained 3 times that I HAD done it all and that it had been received by the recruiter, he continued being short and snippy.
"Now I'm thinking, since he expects me to always drop whatever I'm doing and immediately see to his paperwork whenever it comes in, I should start charging him a small fee.
"I thought a maximum of $50 a week for these "emergency admin tasks" (never ever an emergency, just him being pushy) just enough to do something nice with the kids (because oftentimes I have to skip out halfway through playing with them, or they get upset that mummy can't hang out anymore she needs to concentrate and send off these 50 million emails).
"Would that make me an AH? He works so hard, and I feel like this is one of those things most wives would be happy to do, maybe?
"But it also feels like I already do so much, maybe this is just me trying to not be his maid. Am I being petty?"
One person commented: "Look if you’re really okay doing basically all the “home stuff” so he can focus on his career and being the breadwinner than he can do all the career work and do his own dang applications and emails.
"You flat out shouldn’t be doing any of it. He’s being lazy and entitled."
Another advised: "No you wouldn't be the a****** if you charged a fee or just said no, you're not doing it. But the whole situation is a bit odd so I have to wonder if he will actually understand if you did that or whether it'll just escalate things."
A third replied: "Being a mother is a full-time job. So is being a housekeeper. If you're doing both of those things and he's expecting you to be a PA on top of that, he can damn well pay you for the privilege."
