A disgruntled Reddit user has insisted that their wife should pay for six plane tickets out of her own money rather than their shared account, for a holiday with her family.
They posted on the website after an argument with his wife, explaining that they had originally suggested she buy travel insurance due to her family's track record of cancelling plans.
However, she opted for non-refundable tickets - and ultimately, some of her family members dropped out.
The disgruntled spouse has now taken to Reddit to ask people whether they were right to ask her to pay from her own money - and people have been divided.
"Well, turns out that the trip got cancelled anyway because three of the six people coming got sick," they wrote on a Reddit thread.
"Would I be the a*****e if I insisted that the cost of the plane ticket come out of my wife's personal account?
"The way I see it, because my wife unilaterally decided to book a non-refundable flight (against my suggestion), she should also have to unilaterally deal with the financial consequences.
"My wife is arguing that the plane ticket should come out of our joint account because, had the trip not been cancelled, the joint account would have paid for it."
The response from those in the comments was split, with the majority suggesting the poster was in the right for asking not to pay.
"I don't blame you for feeling that way, and your wife just went ahead and booked the ticket on her own anyway after you pointed the problem out, but perhaps it might be best to let it go this time as you had no agreement in place for incidents like this," one person wrote.
Another added: "You weren’t giving advice to a random stranger then getting upset because they didn’t take it. You were giving advice on a responsible way to handle your joint funds and she brushed you off and the result is costing you both money.
"At the very least, for future trips with her family I would suggest you each buy your own plane tickets from your personal accounts."
However, some suggested that the move was out of line, due to the unavoidableness of people falling sick.
"Nah because they didn't flake, they are sick," one commenter argued. "Do you want them to come on the trip, on a plane, and get you and everyone else sick?"
Another suggested there was something deeper at play within the relationship.
"You basically think of her as a kid," they wrote. "She won’t be allowed to book flights without supervision and you want to punish her for buying a non-refundable ticket.
"She is not your child, stop trying to treat her like one."
Following hundreds of comments and suggestions about the best course of action to take, the original poster shared an update, doubling down on the decision.
They concluded: "I still firmly believe I'm in the right on the purely factual question of who should pay for the ticket.
"But several people brought up good points about picking my battles instead of making a £350 plane ticket my hill to die on.
"I'll likely keep the ticket under the joint account, but will speak to my wife again about being more responsible with our money."
