Teaching kids wrong from right is one of the hardest tasks as a parent, with a variety of discipline methods floating around.
Often parents can feel like everyone is constantly weighing in with a new method or suggestion, making it hard to know what's right.
A common method is the 'naughty step' which parents shun misbehaving children to sit and think about their actions. Although many think this is an effective way to punish a child, a parenting expert has said it's doing the opposite.
In a TikTok, Kerwin Rae explained why sending your kids to the naughty step could be having a detrimental impact on their behaviour.
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The business strategist and life performance expert shared that while time outs do work in the short term, there is extensive research to suggest that "long term it doesn't".
The naughty step or 'time out' technique was popularised in the early 2000s, with Super Nanny Jo Frost championing it. However, it actually dates back to 1969, when it was offered as an alternative to smacking children.
In the Tiktok, Kerwin appears to be speaking at a conference as he said: "It gets you what you want quickly but then by the age of 14 you now have a rebel on your hands."
He explains that children are "little humans in training" and when we use discipline we are training their behaviour. But using the naughty step or another time out trains them to walk away from conflict rather than facing it head on.
He added: "We breed these children, who when they're unhappy with a partner, they don't sit down and talk about it - they just remove love. If someone does the wrong thing, I disconnect myself from them".
Parents in the comments were quick to agree and share that they don't use time outs when possible, as they find their children will use the time out to misbehave more or try to encourage siblings to stir up trouble on their behalf.
One commenter wrote: "Time out should be a minute to cool down, learn control of emotions, then a conversation can occur. But people get lazy & forget to talk after."
Another said: "That’s why communication is key, even with a 9 year old." with a third adding: ""Both my boys are great and they both had time out. yet, we also talked about it afterwards."
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