A woman slammed her husband for "acting like a child" in front of all her friends and family after he looked "visibly disappointed" after finding out the gender of their twins. The mum explained how the couple already have a one-year-old boy together, and she was delighted to find out she is carrying twin girls because she has always pictured herself as a "girl mum".
But her husband couldn't hide his disappointment after finding out their gender. The 26-year-old woman said: "We had our gender reveal last Saturday. We invited our inner circle of friends and family.
"We did the cliché popper that lets out confetti and each of us had one, which represented the gender for each twin. When we popped the confetti, we found out that both twins will be girls.
"I was very excited because I always envisioned myself being a mother of girls and knowing that I will be having even more than one made me feel amazing.
"However, when my husband realised the genders, he seemed visibly disappointed and bummed."
Noticing her husband's reaction, his friends took him aside to try to cheer him up, saying he should be happy they're healthy.
"My husband really wanted at least one boy, he even started picking out toys and names. He acted like this for a few minutes," she added on Reddit.
"Even his friends had to comfort him in front of everyone and tell him that he should just be grateful.
"I honestly got second-hand embarrassment that my husband needed to be comforted in front of everyone because he's going to be having healthy girls. "
While he tried to cheer himself up, the woman could tell he was still "very upset" about it all. She brushed it off until after the party ended - and then confronted him about his reaction.
She said: "I told him he should just be grateful and that he already has a son.
"I told him how embarrassing it was that everyone we knew had to see him act like a child just because of the gender of his children were girls.
"We started going at it and are still acting kind of sour to each other."
While most users agreed he could have done more to hide his upset, others shared their own experiences with "gender disappointment".
One user said: "He’s acting like a child and you guys already have a son. If you had a daughter, I could slightly understand but even then. Maybe just give it some time and allow him to process it.
"Since it's more of a minor fight, maybe extend an olive branch and say sorry for being a little harsh (even if it was warranted) and see if he apologises for acting like a giant baby."
Another user added: " Emotions should all be acknowledged and processed. But some should stay in the diary or in some other strict confidence like the therapist's office. Not every feeling should be performed and on display."
A third user said: "I've read gender disappointment is super common and I think for a lot of people it's like you, they got attached to the idea of having one type of child (or are apprehensive about having another type of child), and have a moment of disappointment before getting used to/embracing the new reality.
"This is a good reason why you shouldn't find out in front of all of your family and friends pointing cameras at you for posterity."
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