One mother has caused ructions online as she admitted she sometimes puts the middle finger up to her toddler when her back is turned.
The frustrated mother took to Mumsnet, a website that allows parents to share their knowledge, advice and support, to start a discussion on whether her actions are right or wrong.
Her discussion was titled, “… to sometimes give toddler DD the finger behind her back?”
She justified her actions by saying, “She definitely doesn’t see and it makes me feel better and is always at home, not out and about etc. My DSis thinks it’s appalling.”
Some users responded to the post saying it was a horrible act.
One said, “It's a horrible thing to do to anyone let alone a toddler”.
Another said, “I don’t think it’s really acceptable TBH. She’ll eventually catch you (and do it to others).
“I have been known to sing that song that goes ‘shuddup, just shuddup shuddup’ under my breath in the other room when reception-age DD is having a tantrum though, so I do know where you’re coming from!”
Despite receiving some replies from mothers who thought the act was despicable, the post generally was met with sympathetic mothers who understood exactly where the middle finger giving mum's frustration came from.
One mother said, “I'm sure loads of people will be here soon to tell you that it's wrong but I've done It, I've also muttered f*** off to myself when my dd is banging on the bathroom door for the millionth time that day.
“I've never said/done anything to her face but sometimes it just helps to get the frustration out.”
Another said, “I do it too, I've got 2 under 3 and sometimes if they've pushed me to the absolute edge it really does help!
“I'd much rather do that than shout / lose my temper with them - they never see, and I'd never do it in public. But sometimes toddlers are just horrible and it helps!”
The mum then responded to the wave of replies by saying, “Guyssss! Thank you.
"I honestly can't see why it would be preferable for me to either shout at her or bottle up my feelings than to tend to her (f***ing ridiculous whim) then flip her off when she toddles off on her next self-destructive jaunt.
“DSis thinks I should suppress my feelings of frustration (even out of sight) lest it create a bad atmosphere for DD’s development.”
