A mum has been slammed online after venting about her mother-in-law's 'expensive' visit to her home.
The mother-in-law had been adding more expensive food to the family's shopping trolley during her five-day visit. Taking to Mumsnet's Am I Being Unreasonable? (AIBU) forum in a thread titled 'Is MIL being an inconsiderate guest?', the woman wrote: "I moved away for a job with husband and child.
"We have lived away for a year and MIL (mother-in-law) has come to visit. It's been five days which have been bearable. We went food shopping and she came with us.
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"I thought more to see what the shops are like where we live. Instead, she started to add food we would never buy to my trolley. When I got to the checkout, I put my stuff down and she put hers down, moved the divider and when I said we don't eat something so to put it back, she said: 'oh, I'll eat that.'
"I get as a host I should accommodate her. And we’ve provided her with the spare room (which we usually use as an office) so I’m working from the bedroom, not ideal. Also I have cooked extra with each meal so she can eat. But I personally would not have put anything extra in her trolley, especially expensive food just for me, if I went to the shops with her.
"We went out to a beauty spot on Sunday (unplanned) I took a small handbag and didn’t take my purse and hubby left his. I said we would go back to get my purse as we were only five minutes down the road and she said: 'don’t worry, I’ve got my card', so she paid for lunch, which turned out more than expected as hubby and her both had a few extra drinks.
"I think at best it is insensitive that she expects me to pay for her special food. I have to go shopping again and am not sure how to deal with this, she insists on coming with us anytime we go out."
The woman's post was met with a flurry of comments from fellow Mumsnet users who disagreed with her views. One wrote: "You sound really mean. Saying you cook extra so she can eat with you?
"Would you really cook and serve food for your family and leave a guest with no food? Just ask your DH (darling husband) for the money for the extra shopping. She's your MIL and a guest, I don't think it's unreasonable for her to want to have specific stuff. Maybe she doesn't know you are hard up?"
Someone else said: "I wouldn't think to add something to a host's trolley, but thinking about it, if my MIL did, I wouldn't mind. I'd rather a guest had everything they wanted (maybe not caviar)."
Another person said: "What you're doing is bare minimum, she paid for lunch (it's weird to not take your phone and purse out btw). A few things she likes to eat is hardly a big imposition. A good host would've asked if there was anything their guest likes and would have it in for them before they arrive, this would be normal in my family."
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