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Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds Established a Rule Early in Their Relationship That Still Works Today

Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds.

It’s difficult to make a marriage work in Hollywood, and Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds are one of the rare couples that seem to have figured it out. Lively recently shared a rule they established early on in their relationship—instituted because she felt she’d been working “nonstop” on Gossip Girl when they first started dating in 2011—and the vow seems to be working, 13 years and four children later.

Reynolds and Lively began dating in 2011 and married in 2012 (Image credit: Getty Images)

“When Ryan and I got together, we made a rule not to work at the same time so that we could always prioritize our personal life,” she told friend (and Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants co-star) Amber Tamblyn on Tamblyn’s Substack show “Further Ado,” per E! News.

The couple married the next year, in 2012; Lively added that this rule hasn’t always been incredibly easy to adhere to: “That takes working really hard when we’re not,” she said. “Just like financial planning and sustaining that, it takes balance.”

It's really too bad this couple isn't attractive or anything (Image credit: Getty Images)

Of Gossip Girl—which ran from 2007 to 2012—“I’m used to working hard, and going and going and going and going and not stopping,” Lively said. “Especially, Gossip Girl was six years of my life, and we were sometimes shooting three episodes at once.”

Lively and Reynolds share daughters James, Inez, Betty, and a fourth child, whose birth was revealed in February 2023. The rule, established before kids were in the picture, is proving even more important now that there are four more members of their family. “There’s nothing on earth more grounding than having a baby,” Reynolds told E! News. “It’s the best thing that could ever happen to someone.” 

Reynolds and Lively share four children together (Image credit: Getty Images)

For the Super Bowl earlier this month, Reynolds watched the kids while Lively joined close friend Taylor Swift at the championship game in Las Vegas. Another rule to the success of their marriage seems to be trolling one another on social media—the two take playful jabs consistently and constantly—and Reynolds used the occasion to poke fun at his wife again at the NFL title game. He wrote on Instagram of Lively—who was shown multiple times at the game, standing next to Swift—“Has anyone seen my wife?” (Reynolds joined Lively and Swift for a Kansas City Chiefs game earlier in the season, when the Chiefs squared off against the New York Jets in October. Everyone’s a Chiefs fan now, by the way, because of one Travis Kelce, who—breaking news—Swift is dating.)

Reynolds and Lively joined Swift and others at the Kansas City Chiefs versus New York Jets matchup in October (Image credit: Getty Images)
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