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Joe Pagnelli

Young dad-to-be told 'stomach ache' is terminal cancer just months after marrying pregnant wife

A devastated dad-to-be was told his "stomach ache" was an incurable cancer just months after tying the knot with his then seven-month pregnant wife.

"Fit and healthy" Adam Gray, 33, first visited the doctor in July last year suffering only from abdominal pains which tragically turned out to be a "silent killer" cancer.

Just days later, he was told he had a rare and incurable tumour and that he had just six months to a year left to live.

At the time, Adam had just married his childhood sweetheart Christine, 33, who was pregnant with their first daughter Amelie, who is now nine-months-old.

He said his perfect life had been "turned upside down" in the space of 48 hours after he was given the devastating news.

Adam Gray and his wife Christine just three days before his diagnosis (Adam Gray / SWNS)

The family are now raising funds to get specialist treatment in Germany which could prolong his life, as well as funding crucial research in search of a cure.

Adam, originally from York, North Yorkshire, said: "At the end of 2018 we'd just been on our honeymoon in South Africa - I felt like I was on top of the world.

"We were about to welcome our first daughter into the world. I just got a new job in London and I felt great.

"Then it felt like my world just came crashing down out of nowhere.

Adam Gray hugs his beautiful daughter Amelie in hospital (Adam Gray / SWNS)

"I was a young and fit man, I cycled to work each morning for nine miles and played football each weekend.

"In the space of two days my entire life was flipped upside down."

On Thursday, July 9, Adam will be undertaking the Yorkshire Three Peaks challenge to raise £5,000 for Royal Free Charity along with his brother Simon Gray.

Adam said: "I desperately want to raise awareness about this cancer because it affects a lot of people and we just don't have the funding necessary.

Adam Gray his wife Christine and their daughter Amelie (Adam Gray / SWNS)

"I was completely healthy and never once thought I could be sick.

"If we can get additional funding and research we can spot it earlier and save lives.

"If we can help one person have a better life and save a single life that would be worth it."

Doctors nearly sent the fitness mad dad home but following some tests and an ultrasound they discovered the cancer had spread through his pancreas, liver, lungs and lymph nodes.

Adam Gray and his brother Simon on Adam's visit to hospital for this first chemo session (Adam Gray / SWNS)

Pancreatic cancers are known as 'the silent killer' due to their lack of observable symptoms making them incredibly hard to identify during the early stages of growth.

Adam was told his endocrine tumours had been spreading aggressively throughout his body for at least two years.

Adam, a lawyer currently based in London, said: "I remember the doctor told me not to google pancreatic cancer - and they were right.

"The first year prospects were not good.

Adam Gray and his wife Christine (Adam Gray / SWNS)

"On the first day, they said I was completely fine. I even worked from my bed throughout the day.

"But after the ultrasound the found the tumours. They had spread all over."

By the time Adam felt anything wrong with his body it was already too late.

Adam spent 10 and a half months on chemotherapy where he underwent 12 cycles but the tumours kept growing - and ballooned to over 11cm by 5cm.

He couldn't sleep for days and weeks due to the chemotherapy and was left in excruciating pain as he took on the aggressive cancer.

But he said witnessing the birth of his daughter was the "happiest" moment of his life.

He said: "I was on chemo at that point and I was feeling awful. Just in pain all the time and being sick.

Adam Gray and his new wife Christine on their wedding day (Lumiere Photographic / SWNS)

"But my daughter Amelie was born and it was the best day of my life.

"It was just incredible.

"It was the happiest moment of my life."

Adam and his wife and newborn have been shielding since lockdown and keeping spirits up by enjoying each day together.

Along with his wife, whom he met when he was just 11, said he wants to live in the present and enjoy each moment with his family.

"I've got my beautiful bundle of joy and I think this has all changed my perspective on life.

Adam Gray pictured in hospital a few days after the birth of his daughter Amelie (Adam Gray / SWNS)

"I was very work and fitness oriented - but family is my only focus now.

"They're my everything.

"I don't want to leave them behind. I want to live in the present and cherish every moment with them."

You can donate to his cause here: https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/adam-gray-3

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