A woman has gone viral after sharing her dating predicament. In her video, which has amassed 251,000 views, Charlotte Hancey (@charlotte.shares) shares her biggest dating ick: being broke.
She began by explaining that she and this man had been on two dates, and had a third date planned. However, a few days before their third date, he contacted her asking if she was free. Hancey was then unimpressed when he asked her to plan it. When she suggested dinner, the man said he was broke from “incurring costs,” and asked if they could go cheap or 50/50.
Dating woes
“Excuse me, it’s our third date,” she said. “You’re bringing up financial troubles, and you’re complaining about having to take me to dinner, like you can’t spend $20 on a new girl that you’re trying to pursue? No, absolutely not.”
They end up hanging out at her apartment as she cooks food for him, but the next day, Hancey ultimately broke things off with him (pun intended).
“I am not broke, so I don’t want to date someone who is having money issues and complaining about having to take me on a date, because I want someone who can match my lifestyle and wants to take me to fun dates and concerts and dinners and all of that kind of stuff, and eventually travel with,” she concluded. “So, we’re not a match. Bye boy! And with that guy, my roster is officially at zero, and I’m so happy about it. I’m so sick of dating.”
Commenters understood the TikToker
For the most part, commenters could see Hancey’s point of view. “Girl, same,” one wrote. “If you don’t have your finances figured out, we can’t do this life together.”
“It’s not even the fact that he was supposedly broke that irritated me,” a second shared. “It was how slick he was trying to be. You ask me on a date, but say you can’t afford it. Then you, in a roundabout way, ask to come over, and you couldn’t even provide the wine. Broke but still trying to get “lucky.” Eww.”
While a third added: “No woman wants to be with a broken man. If you’re broken, you’re a failure, and nobody wants failure. My career’s solid, my finances are on point. If yours aren’t, stay home, binge Netflix, and cry about it. At the end of the day, women want winners, not excuses.”
@charlotte.shares I’m sorry but in the beginning of dating especially I’m not going 50-50! What do you think? #datingadvice #datingstorytime #datinginyour40s #datingsucks ♬ original sound – Charlotte Hancey
Why do women not want to date broke men?
According to psychologist Dr. Sarah Hill, women’s desire not to date broke men is inherent. She claims that it comes from our distant ancestors, where women had to rely on men to hunt and get resources while they stayed at home with the children.
“So women, historically have been very dependent on men for resources, and we’ve inherited that that brain, because over the course of evolutionary history, women who would have placed an emphasis on, you know, choosing partners who have these kinds of qualities, they would have been more likely to have surviving offspring who then passed that tendency or that preference onto their offspring, could pass that preference on to their offspring,” she said.
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