Whether it’s amicable or not, the breakdown of a marriage can be incredibly complicated - especially when children are involved. Divorce proceedings are often messy and custody agreements can turn even the most cordial of break ups into a battle.
So, it’s unsurprising that one man has complete disdain for his ex wife - the mother of his nine-year-old son - and her new husband. According to the man’s current wife, he’s always been on bad terms with his ex, with the pair “hating each other’s guts,” following a messy divorce several years ago.
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But, while hatred towards an ex isn’t exactly uncommon, the man’s passionate dislike of his former wife and her husband has become quite an issue in his own marriage, his wife of two years has complained.
“The current problem started when he found out that his ex wife planned to go on vacation without their son - my stepson,” the woman explained on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.
“Why? because her new husband didn't want the son to go - probably because it's a romantic getaway.”
After hearing of their plans, the woman’s husband “pitched a fit” and insisted that his wife take their son so as not to leave him out, but they refused. Instead the boy came to stay with them, and the woman welcomed him into their home and made sure he was happy and entertained.
“All was good until I found out that my husband had booked tickets for a vacation to the same place his ex and her new husband were going, same hotel, same everything,” she wrote.
But here’s where things get even more ridiculous. Instead of booking the trip for himself, the man booked the tickets in his wife and his son’s names only.
“I was confused. I asked him about it and he said he did this to spite his ex and show her she can't exclude his son from a vacation and prove who the better parent is,” the woman continued.
“He told me he's ‘arranged for everything’ and all I had to do was take time off work and take his son and go.”
After questioning whether her husband was serious, she “went off on him,” explaining that she can’t just take time off work to visit a place she’s never been before just to “one up” his ex.
“He ranted about how busy he was, saying otherwise he would've ‘taken care of this himself’ but was sending me instead,” she added/
“I yelled saying I've got a lot on my plate. I work full time, I take care of my cancer-stricken mom, I clean, cook and take care of my stepson on top of that.”
When her husband tried to tell her that her boss would understand she needed time off, she told him just how selfish he was being and gave a firm ‘no’ to the plans.
“He flipped his s*** on me then told his son that I just said no to a fun vacation for my stepson, funded by his dad. I told him to stop it because I have commitments and won't risk losing my job over an unexpected vacation and for what? We just got back from one a month ago,” the woman explained.
“He's been ranting about how I'm wasting his time and money by declining to go and that his son will hate me for this forever.”
After sharing her post, the woman was inundated with responses telling her to “run” away from her husband, who many called a “walking red flag.”
“You are married to a man who hasn't gotten over his ex wife, and is willing to hurt his son for some toxic payback. This will not end well. Run,” one commented.
Another added: “First of all, I have zero sympathy for a co-parent who declines extra time with their kids. I don’t care why they’re offering more time. What my ex does on their child-free time is none of my business anymore and that’s a privilege I fought hard for. But more time with my kids? Yes please. I don’t need to know why, nor do I care.
“Second, wtf? You are not his puppet and if you don’t want to be his flying monkey and provide harassment/stalking via proxy services for your spouse, good on you! No reasonable person is interested in that. This man is loony.”
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