When it comes to naming a baby, most people would agree that some level of discussion has to be had between both parents where possible, so that they each get to have an input on the moniker their baby has.
But one mum has split opinion online by claiming that mums should have "more sway" over the final decision than dads - because it's more common for a baby to take their father's surname.
The woman - who is expecting her first child - believes that because her child will already have one name from their dad as soon as they're born, it should be up to her as the mum to pick the first name.
In a Mumsnet post titled "To think women should have more sway in naming babies", she wrote: "AIBU [am I being unreasonable] in thinking women should have the most say in naming their children?
"I'm about 8 weeks away from giving birth and still deep in what has been a physically awful pregnancy. I've been incredibly ill throughout and it's taken me to the edge mentally and emotionally.
"My husband and I married last year. I took on his name, in an ideal world I would have double-barrelled but my maiden name was already a double-barrelled name, so I decided to take on my new husband's surname. Our baby will have his surname.
"We're getting to the naming baby crunch talks, and we can't decide! He has his favourites, I have mine. AIBU to think that, as he gets to pass his surname on to baby, and as recognition of a bloody rough 9 months that I've endured, I should have the final say on first naming our baby?"
The mum-to-be admitted her post was "light-hearted", but it did stir up some conversation between commenters, many of whom couldn't decide if they agreed with her or not.
Some agreed that the mum should name the baby after spending nine months carrying it and then giving birth to it, and even jokingly remarked that dads could name the kids "they give birth to".
One said: "I agree with you. All that physical bloody work, there should be a reward somewhere along the way for it."
While another posted: "I told my husband he could name any kids he gave birth to and I’d name the ones I gave birth to!"
And a third wrote: "Personally I agree, I think you should get to make the choice - allowing your husband to veto any names he truly cannot stand. (We all have those names we loathe.)
"I choose my son's name. It was on my list from the get-go and my husband warmed to it over a few months so that, by 8 months, it was our top choice."
But others insisted that naming a baby should always be a joint decision wherever possible, as although the dad may not have given birth, that doesn't make the baby any less "theirs".
Someone commented: "I disagree. Naming a baby is a parenting decision just like any other. The child is both of yours and will have the name for the rest of its life. You and your husband will have to compromise on thousands of issues over your child's life and the name is just the first one. How long do you think you being the pregnant one and getting the casting vote as a result should last?"
"I think both parents should like their child's name", someone else agreed. "I did insist on my dad's name as a middle name for my son but I think both parents need to agree on the first name."
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