It's common for married couples to share far more than a last name in a relationship, and the area that causes most arguments is usually finances.
Partners often share finances in a bid to spread responsibilities fairly, but things can get heated when circumstances change and one half of the couple is left in a tough spot.
One mum is struggling to come to terms with the new set up between her and her husband, as she's set to take a big hit to her finances while her partner enjoys a new higher earning job.
The woman is having to sacrifice her job in order to prioritise childcare while her partner works away full time, but she's sparked debate after admitting she's considering 'charging' her partner for her 'loss of earnings'.
Taking to Mumsnet for advice the parent's conundrum has received a huge reaction online as people are in a heated conversation whether the woman's actions are appropriate.
Captioning the post, the mum wrote: "To charge my husband for my lost earnings?"
She explained: "My husband is a contractor and will soon need to look for another role he's been working from home for four years. I've found working from home one but it's not as much pay as Canary Wharf five days per week which will mean he will live at his mums and commute in. We have never really shared finances wholly.
"I work in a job with unsociable hours, I make good money but I have to leave at 8-9pm. If my husband takes the Canary Wharf job, my earning power will be severely impacted as I need to care for my my daughter. I have no outside help.
"I've told my husband that he will either have to top up my wages to how much I've lost or pay for a nanny. I also have a health condition and compressed hours make it easier to manage.
"My husband is saying I'm being unreasonable and that it's good he's earning more money but I don't believe it's beneficial in anyway to my life. I would rather he took the job with less pay so I am able to work as I need too."
Seeking advice, she wrote: "I feel I have financial independence at the moment and the working away would make me feel vulnerable. Am I being unreasonable?"
Since posting, the woman's thread has raked in 350 comments to date - with one person writing: "Tbh it seems a bit bizarre if you're married and your husband lives with his mum while you and your child live elsewhere on your own."
Meanwhile, someone else said: "You're married but treat finances separately? I'd be less worried about the living at his mums during the week - plenty of people work away Monday to Friday."
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