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Angharad Thomas

Woman says she's living a Love Actually scene as husband buys jewellery for Christmas and she doesn't get it

A woman shared that she experienced a Love Actually moment this Christmas and hopes that her husband has not followed Harry's sneaky actions. She compared her experience to the film's infamous scene, where Karen - played by Emma Thompson - is left heartbroken when she realises her husband Harry - played by Alan Rickman - gave a gold necklace to another woman for Christmas.

On Mumsnet, she shared how she found a receipt for jewellery on her husband's bank card statement, but come to Boxing Day, she still hasn't received the mysterious item. On the 'am I being unreasonable' forum, she wrote: "I found a receipt a few weeks ago for jewellery on my husband’s card. Christmas has come and gone and the jewellery hasn’t arrived. I am worried he may have bought it for another woman.

"He has form for messaging other women and always deletes the messages, usually as they come in so I’m not sure how I’d find anything. I want to confront him as much as possible because I need to know the truth. What am I looking for? Where do I look? And yes, I know IABU [I am being unreasonable] posting here, but I need the traffic as I want to approach today." You can get story updates straight to your inbox by subscribing to our newsletters here.

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Many commenters suggested that the woman should "just ask" her husband about the receipt, while others were quick to suggest that he probably was guilty of recreating the Love Actually scene. One user said: "Well, it does seem pretty obvious to me what he has done. I'm no expert but I’d get a copy of the receipt. Make sure the jewellery was not given to members of his family and then try and go through his phone to see if there are any messages incriminating him.

"You don’t need evidence to leave him though. Just wanting rid of him is enough. Sounds like he is a cheat so I’d tell him you can’t stand to look at him anymore and will be filing for divorce."

Another added: "This doesn't sound like it was years ago. And it sounds continuous. If you're going to stay hoping for him to transform into a loyal and devoted husband you'll have a very long, painful and unrealistic wait. Sorry, but you need to face reality, the jewellery thing is a complete red herring I'm afraid." While another said: "Seriously? Set yourself higher standards."

Many users thought this mum's advice was "excellent." She said: "What I would do is say: 'Darling husband... I happened to notice a jewellery spend on your card and noticed I didn't get jewellery for Christmas. This has me concerned. While I know you may have been buying it for a surprise in the future, at the moment I can't help feeling it has gone elsewhere... call it an uncontrolled, irrational worry! If you present it to me now, I will be very appreciative and apologise for being paranoid... but if you can't present it, I will assume the worst, and can you blame me?' That way he doesn't have a chance to go out and buy another to give to you at a later date and claim it was for you all along!"

The mum added: "The downside to my idea is that he might not have had the chance to give it away yet if indeed that was his plan. If you confront him too soon, he may still present you with the item, despite it being meant for someone else. If you want to be really strategic (if you can handle it), you could wait a few weeks to give him the chance to either give to you or the other person, and then confront him."

However, some users still remained optimistic and thought the recent Royal Mail strike might be the cause for the delay. One commenter said: "Could it be something he ordered and paid for online for delivery but hasn't arrived yet because of postal issues?" Another added: "Could it just be delayed in the post? I had a few things take over a week to arrive this month." But some think the husband will "just use this as an excuse."

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