A bride has divided opinions online after she said that she'd prefer if her bridesmaids didn't dye their hair for her wedding.
In a post on Reddit, the anonymous woman said that he is getting married in a few months with her closest friends being bridesmaids.
One of her bridesmaids, whom she refers to as 'S', changes the colour of her hair quite often, she explained, and while she's always thought it was "cute," she's made it clear she'd prefer for everyone to have "natural hair" for her wedding.
"Last week I was getting the final touches for hairstyles and asked everyone if they were planning on changing anything about their hair so I can coordinate, like if they do a bob cut or something else - don’t care, their hair their choice," she said.
Everyone responded by saying that they weren't planning on changing anything, except for S, who stayed quiet.
When she saw S the next day, she asked again what she wanted to do with her hair.
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"She said she thinking about changing it to teal highlights (she is blonde so yes it would be noticeable)," the woman said. "I have the worse poker face so I know it showed I was sad."
When S asked her what the problem was, she told her that she'd prefer it if she kept her hair natural.
"I also said I would want you to be in my wedding regardless of what you look like cause you’re my friend."
Later that night, the woman received a text from her bridesmaid saying how upset she'd made her feel and how she'd tried to guilt-trip her into changing her appearance.
"That was not my intention at all!" she wrote.
"Of course, I’m upset she’s going to have teal hair at my wedding but she wants it and I rather her be in my party than not be in it at all."
She concluded her post by asking whether she was in the wrong for telling her friend how she felt, and while a few Reddit users branded her a "bridezilla", others rushed to defend her and said it was a reasonable request.
One person said: "Get over yourself. Honest to God, think about how amazing it would be to be married to your soul mate instead of thinking about teal highlights. Micromanaging and over functioning are unattractive."
A second user commented: "If you truly didn’t care, you wouldn’t have even been asking, let alone telling people how you want them to have their hair. That’s what’s making you a bridezilla here."
But a third Redditor defended her, writing: "I generally don't think brides have the right to ask for 'a look', but it does sound like [original poster] was being reasonably flexible about this."
Another agreed: "It seems like you were trying t be kind and let your preferences be known. You didn’t kick her out.
"I honestly don’t see why she can’t wait a few weeks but, whatever."
While a third wrote: "I don't know why anyone is calling you a bridezilla for simply being honest about your feelings. It's not like you threw a tantrum or went off on her for wanting to change her hair colour.
"You simply stated what you'd like, and you even said she's free to do as she wishes. That term gets overused far too often.
"It's your wedding. You're allowed to want a specific vision for it. And you're allowed to want to shine. "
The bride-to-be later responded to some of the criticism she received in an edit to her post, where she said: "I read through the comments (the ones that actually read what I was asking) and took your advice.
"I did apologise to her, I was not trying to make her change her ways. I want her to feel comfortable and if she feels comfortable with teal hair then so be it!
"I just want her to be part of my party and have a good time. She then said she thought about it and talked to other people, she said she can wait to dye her hair. She said it would really badly clash with the outfits (light forest green and cream).
"Also, people ask why I wanted everyone to have natural hair, to be honest not sure, I just thought it would look better. Now thinking about it probably wouldn’t matter. I told her this and she still said she won’t dye it for the wedding. I told her she could dye it green to match the outfits if she really wants to lol."
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