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Julia Banim

Woman's brutal reply to friend who invited her to hen do and not wedding raises eyebrows

One woman has revealed her upset after failing to get an invite to her close friend's wedding, despite being invited to the hen do.

When she heard her pal was planning the big day, she she kept an eye out for the wedding invitation, checking through her post "every day like airport security".

Unfortunately, several weeks went by and she still hadn't been invited, and she had to just accept she hadn't "made the final cut".

According to this woman, she and the bride-to-be met eight years ago while studying together, and "bonded instantly over children, and completely useless, emotionally challenged husbands."

They've since helped each other through divorces and attended countless birthday parties and family events. She'd assumed they were close, and that she would naturally be on the invite list.

She naturally assumed she'd be on the wedding guest list (Stock Photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

Taking to Reddit, the disappointed woman wrote: "There was no explanation offered, and nor did I intend to start demanding one.

"That was until a few days ago when I received an invitation to her last-minute 'hen's night' event which included a £21 ($25) charge to cover the 'food' provided on the night!"

Reaching out for advice, she continued: "Obviously I was never going to go, especially because I feel like I was only invited to make up the numbers? So when I replied to the RSVP by saying that, 'unfortunately I would be busy on that night getting my hemorrhoids lanced', and then wished her a lovely evening, I guess she was a little annoyed?

"She responded with a private email to ask 'what my problem was'? I told her that since she had brought it up, that I felt it was rude to invite somebody to your hen night, but not the wedding itself. It's like saying you're not good enough for the main event, but if you want to attend the pre-party that's okay."

The bride now thinks she's being immature and says she should apologise for being so unsupportive and rude. She now wonders whether she might indeed be in the wrong.

One person advised: "You aren't obligated to go to any event, and she isn't obligated to invite you to her wedding. Maybe the wedding is super small and she is doing family only. But if that isn't the case think of it as a window into seeing how much she values your friendship. I do think you could have politely declined without sounding so bitter though."

Another commented: "You could have said it nicer. This is obviously going to end a friendship. But on the other side: You were definitely just a gap-filler at the hen's night so maybe there hasn't been much of a friendship in the first place."

Do you have a wedding-related story to share? Email us at julia.banim@reachplc.com

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