A pregnant woman was left feeling "upset" and "resentful" over the behaviour and comments of her in-laws - particularly her mother-in-law.
The woman is currently pregnant with her first child but said all her "overwhelming memories of the pregnancy so far are them [the in-laws] kicking off about things".
Things came to a head when her mother-in-law insisted the baby's due date was wrong.
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The mum-to-be took to Mumsnet's popular Am I Being Unreasonable [AIBU] thread to seek advice on how best to handle the situation.
She titled her post "[AIBU] To be struggling to just let this go?" and penned: " I'm due in a couple of weeks with my first baby.
"DH's [dear husband's] parents were desperate for grandchildren, but reacted pretty horribly when they found out, and then they became completely overbearing. They have quizzed us on everything, they don't leave you alone until you answer, and then argue with our decisions if they aren't what they want.
"The second trimester was particularly bad, and after a week of them constantly phoning and arguing with us over stuff, and turning up unannounced; I told DH [dear husband] I couldn't do it anymore. He talked to them, and they have tried to back off.
"They appear to have accepted that we're doing this our way, and they've stopped with the constant texts/unexpected visits/questioning our decisions/etc. We're seeing them every fortnight or so, and generally, they ask how the baby is and then ignore it as a topic; so it's been okay."
But things have taken a turn after her mother-in-law messaged to say she believes their due date is wrong, leaving the pregnant woman anxious her in-laws will resume their "overbearing" behaviour.
She continued: "Last night, MIL [mother-in-law] messaged DH that she thinks my due date is wrong. I have no idea how, but she's now convinced the baby is due before it is. DH didn't mention it to me, but she called this morning and left a voicemail asking if we needed them to buy anything, and reiterating that she thinks my due date is wrong.
"I got a bit upset about it feeling like it's starting again this morning... DH has apologised, and he does feel bad, but he did also say that they're trying and he'll talk to them again if he needs to. He has, so far, understood that they make me feel very uncomfortable now; and that I can't imagine feeding in front of them, and that MIL's plan of having a spare key and turning up whenever she's free can't happen...
"But I'm wondering if it's unreasonable to still be feeling quite resentful that my overwhelming memories of the pregnancy so far are them kicking off about things. I feel really sad that DH was so excited to share this with them, and they've let him down at every turn. And I feel disappointed that what should have been a nice time has mostly been spent worrying about them; and even now, rather than preparing for birth, I'm worried about how insane they're going to go when baby is here.
"Is this somewhat normal? Do we just have to go with it for now; and hope it fades in time, or should I be trying to talk to someone about how I feel?"
The expectant mum added: "(For the record, this isn't an in-law thing. I have no parents; I am not preferring my own, and before they went crazy, I was excited for my baby to have grandparents who loved them.)"
Fellow Mumsnet users took to the comments section to share their thoughts on the situation.
One said: "dont give your MIL a spare key, she will just turn up you need your DH to have your back as things will get worse once baby is here".
Another said: "They sound intense".
A third said: "Utterly insane. I’m so sorry!"
Another said: "Do NOT give MIL a spare key. No no no."
Another Mumsnet user commented: "So I think you are being totally reasonable and they have gone a bit crazy. However, they will hopefully calm down a bit with time and be the loving GPs [grandparents] you want. They also sound like they will be very involved which whilst utterly irritating now, will be so helpful in years to come. Just see the posts on here from people disappointed the GPs are not more involved. I totally get how upset you must be but try to be as understanding as you can and let your DH deal with them for now. I think it will all calm down with time."
In a follow up comment, the pregnant woman said she valued her husband's support, adding: "I don't know if it's hormones or if I'm now an awful person; but it's eating me up today how much their behaviour has impacted on the pregnancy."
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