Almost all of us have been on at least one rubbish date, but have you ever had a partner take you somewhere just to see if you'll do something they don't like?
That's exactly what happened to one woman on Reddit, who claimed a date took her out for a night of drinking and then dumped her because he "doesn't date girls who drink".
Posting her story anonymously, the woman said the bloke had convinced her to stay out with him to see if she could "keep up" with his partying ways, but was later told it was actually just a test - and he expected her to put her foot down and refuse to drink.
Get the news you want straight to your inbox. Sign up for a Mirror newsletter here.
She also claimed she drank more that night than she would normally do and thought she and her date were just "having fun", so was shocked to discover she had been lied to.
She wrote: "I don't know why but I'm getting flashbacks to the guy who, a few years ago, tried on a good one with me (at his insistence).
"We had a great time, and he kept saying how much he was enjoying himself. He later texted me saying he doesn't date girls who drink that much, though he really liked me.
"He said, 'I think you're still at a place where you party way more than me', which made me realise him saying he wanted to stay out and keep going 'if I could keep up' was a test.
"I can't roll my eyes hard enough at the double standards. Especially considering that night was far crazier than anything in my life. I thought we were both feeling a vibe and having fun."
The woman shared her experience after being reminded of it while waiting for another date to start - because the man had told her he was "running late" after confirming the time they were due to meet just hours before.
She said: "It's small, but he called me yesterday to confirm the time. He texted me today to say he was excited and reconfirm.
"And now it's the time. I'm at the place we're supposed to meet. And he texted me (with two minutes to spare) that he was running late. We're in an area with no traffic.
"Dating should be fun. Not confusing."
And commenters on the Reddit post were quick to share their own stories of dating disasters, as it was soon revealed that many of them had been through similar scenarios.
One person said: "I think a lot of men also test boundaries early on to see what you’ll tolerate. If you don’t say anything, they take it as a go-ahead to continue such behaviour.
"I’ve known countless women who try to play it cool in the beginning because they don’t want to seem high maintenance. Then they end up in a relationship with someone who engages in unacceptable behaviour."
While another added: "I literally just left a date because the guy was super late. He was straight-up 45 minutes late. He still didn’t show up 10 minutes after telling me he was looking for parking.
"He was either standing me up or he really didn’t respect me or my time. Perhaps he was also testing how long I would wait."
"Creating tests is toxic behaviour. People need to use their words like an adult", a third stated.
Do you have a story to sell? Get in touch with us at yourmirror@trinitymirror.com .
