It’s no secret that dating can be hard work. When you meet someone new it can be hard to work out the rules, like who should ask who out and who should pick up the bill. While the latter can be a divisive subject, one woman thought she and her date had come to a rather fair agreement, as - like many modern couples - they decided to take it in turns when paying for their dates.
On their first date, the woman recalled, she had just one drink, which he paid for. So, when it came to their second date, she paid for everything - despite the fact they both ordered food and his meal was quite expensive. “No big deal,” she wrote on Reddit’s Dating Advice forum. “He thanked me and said that was nice and he’ll get us next time. He also mentioned how he’ll drive us for the next date as well.”
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When their third date came around, her companion seemed to forget about his previous offer and asked if she wanted to drive, to which she said no, because of what he said at the end of the last date.
“Then at the restaurant he said I probably should’ve driven because he’d had a few drinks. I reminded him that he offered to drive us this time, and he said he was joking,” she continued.
“Then when the bill came, he put it on his card so I thought he was going to pay for everything.”
But she was wrong. After paying for the meal, her date asked him to send her half he money to pay for her share of the meal, despite having previously offered to pick up the whole bill.
“I’m a bit annoyed at this because why say things you don’t mean? Obviously I can afford to pay for dinners but it’s the lack of wanting to after just meeting me, along with saying you got us next time then you don’t,” she added.
The woman went on to say she didn’t know whether it was even worth bringing up her annoyance at the situation or whether she should just break it off and not see him again.
“Sometimes people make promises that they can't keep, but this is three dates in and you paid for the second date,” one Reddit user responded.
“Honestly, to me it's not about the money but rather the empty promises and purposefully going out of his way to not fulfil them. I'd be done with him. The drink thing makes him seem rather childish.”
Another agreed: “If someone can‘t keep these low level promises in the getting to know stage, how the f*** will they ever keep a promise that requires active effort from them?
“That dude simply would have lost all trust and respect I provide to every random stranger.”
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