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Woman got engaged to her teacher who's mistaken for her grandma due to 25-year age gap

A woman who is now engaged to her favourite schoolteacher says they get mistaken for grandmother and granddaughter.

Self-confessed "teacher's pet" Monica Ketchum, 31, is in a loving relationship with Michelle Foster, 56, who taught her science back in 2004.

Monica decided to reach out to find her favourite schoolteacher on Facebook, 16 years after she left the classroom, and they found a romantic connection.

The couple say they are mistaken for mother and daughter "several times every day" - with one stranger even mistaking Michelle for being Monica's grandmother

But the pair "don't even notice" the 25-year age gap and have hit back at the vile trolls who wrongfully claimed there was 'grooming involved'.

Monica Ketchum and Michelle Foster are engaged (SWNS)

Michelle was shocked to get a message on Facebook from her former student, but the pair bonded over lunch and quickly became close friends.

Michelle had been in a relationship with a woman in the past, and Monica had just come out as gay too when they met in 2021.

Over time their supportive friendship became more intense until it became clear there was a romantic connection - despite their unusual connection and 25 year age gap.

Monica, a forklift driver and content creator, from Big Rapids, Michigan, US, proposed in September 2022 and then Michelle returned the favour by popping the question back the following month.

"Michelle was my seventh-grade teacher and she was my favourite - I was a teacher's pet," explained Monica.

"We didn't have any relationship besides her being a good teacher - until I reached out on Facebook 16 years later.

"I've always been attracted to older people, so the gap wasn't an issue for me, but Michelle worried about it at first.

The former teacher and pupil reconnected then fell in love (SWNS)
The both ended up proposing to each other (SWNS)

"People always ask if she's my mum - I even recently designed a t-shirt saying 'no, she's not my mum'.

"I try to let it go but it does hurt - age doesn’t matter to us, so why does it matter to other people?"

Michelle had been Monica's seventh grade teacher when she was a 13-year-old "goody goody student" - and had always been her favourite.

"I was always willing to be supportive of former students, I was very happy reconnect," said Michelle while discussing how they met back up again years later.

"I've always been a huge caregiver and one day she said 'let me take care of you' - I can't tell you how good that felt.

"I was worried about the age gap and I was worried about how we first met, but I had to let it all go.

"It became clear I had to make a choice for myself, and when I did, it was the weight of the world lifted.

They get mistaken for grandmother and granddaughter (SWNS)

"Once I let go, it didn’t matter what anyone thought. Since I let go of that, we just flowered.

"I realised other people can think what they think and I just have to do what I need to do to be happy.

"I now just think how lucky am I to have such a wonderful beautiful soul to spend the rest of my days with."

They had a purely teacher and pupil relationship at school, but Michelle left such a mark that Monica decided to find her on Facebook 17 years later, in April 2020.

Monica had just gone through a tough personal situation, having been raised strongly Christian and becoming estranged from her family when she came out as gay.

She had recalled Michelle's supportive classroom being a "safe place" for her when she was younger and got in touch.

Michelle had also been struggling when Monica reached out and they supported each other, speaking online.

They met up 16 years later (SWNS)
Michelle taught science to Monika (SWNS)

They finally met up for the first time in August 2021 and quickly became close pals.

Monica said: "We sat and had lunch for five hours - it was great to catch up. We grew close and became great friends - we could talk about anything.

"We were both in really dark places and finding someone you can relate to and be vulnerable with felt safe."

They ended their previous relationships to be together in May 2022 - with Michelle and her wife filing for a divorce.

Ever since then, the couple, who both have children from previous marriages, have been living together.

Despite the age gap, Monica says they have a lot in common, having bonded over music, camping, outdoor activities and hunting down locally-brewed beer.

Monica said: "In the beginning, the age gap was the biggest issue for Michelle - I didn’t really have concerns.

"I was always attracted to older people - I'm attracted to an old soul, so age has never really been a thing for me.

"Michelle and I were always close, and we found commonality, so I didn’t even see an age gap."

They both have children from previous relationships (SWNS)

The couple got engaged late last year after they organised separate proposals for one another and are now planning their wedding in June this year.

They are now planning their wedding, due to take place in June 2023.

But the ride isn't always smooth - and due to their large age gap, Monica explained they are often mistaken for mother and daughter.

She said: "People ask 'is that your mum' or even 'is that your grandma' all the time.

"We learned to laugh or brush it off, but if you see me kissing her, why would you ask if she's my mum?"

She added: "Another question I get asked is whether I loved her when I was 13 - obviously not!

"At the time, we didn’t have any relationship besides her being a good teacher."

They are a very loving family (SWNS)
They say "love is love" (SWNS)

Despite people misunderstanding their relationship, the couple put themselves out on social media.

They explained they want to "be open in the community which needs a voice" - both due to being LGBT and because of their age gap.

Monica said: "We want to be where others come to find hope and light and safety or need a friend.

"We want to encompass everybody in a loving way and promote that love is love."

Monica added: "We get a lot of harassment for our age gap, and we don't understand it.

"Age doesn’t matter to us, so why does it matter to other people?

"If I allow myself to sit there and think about it, I'll go insane - I try to let it go but it does hurt.

"Love is love and we can love whoever we want."

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