When it comes to planning a wedding, most of us would want to have the people we value most in the world fill out the important roles, including the bridesmaids, ushers, maid of honour, and best man.
But one woman on Reddit has discovered that for her cousin, having people in those roles whose bodies fit a certain "aesthetic" is more important - as she was rudely told she couldn't be the maid of honour because of her body shape.
The woman shared a screenshot of a tweet in which she explained her cousin - who is the "closest thing" she has to a sibling - had cruelly told her she needs to lose weight before her wedding in December if she wants to be part of the bridal party.
And rather than bend to the bride's unrealistic beauty standards, the woman has declared she now won't be attending the wedding at all, as she doesn't appreciate being fat-shamed.
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The tweet read: "My closest cousin, the closest thing I have to a sibling, has officially confirmed I won't be her maid of honour because I'm just too fat for a maid of honour role.
"I have to lose some weight before December or no maid of honour duties for me.
"I shan't be attending the wedding."
And the Reddit post was captioned: "It truly is funny how being a part of someone's bridesmaids or being the maid of honour is no longer chosen by how close you are to the bride, but by how well you fit her aesthetic."
Commenters on the post were quick to praise the woman for standing her ground and refusing to change to fit her cousin's beauty standards.
One person said: "Being a maid of honour for someone that shallow is just signing up to be a door mat. Good on you for withdrawing from that s**t show. If you don't fit the bride's mean spirited criteria - so what? You've got soul and backbone!"
While another added: "On the plus side, you get to skip a superficial and likely unfun wedding, and she has made it very easy to see who you should trim out of your life. I see that as a win."
And others shared their own wedding-related horror stories, with one even claiming her own sister had told her that her bridesmaid dresses "wouldn't fit" her - only for her to wear the exact dress to a different event.
They wrote: "This was my older sister. She claimed the dresses she wanted wouldn't fit me. Her wedding happened to be around the same time as my prom, and when I was all ready for prom, she threw a fit because the dress I happened to pick out was her bridesmaids dress she had ordered, just in a different colour.
"I had no clue, and now it was out there that she thought I was not fit for her ideal wedding."
As someone else commented: "Years ago when my older brother got married, his wife had no siblings and asked her best friend and two cousins she didn’t really know to be in her wedding party, while I am my brother’s only sister. I wasn’t asked because I was too 'fat' to be in the pictures."
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