A woman says her fiancé has told her she will have to wear a red dress at their wedding, instead of white, because she isn't a virgin and is therefore 'not pure'. The 27-year-old recently shared her story on Reddit's Off My Chest forum, saying she met her soon-to-be husband six years ago and they got engaged a year ago.
She said her partner has left the wedding planning to her, but recently came home from work and said he didn't think she should wear white on the day, because it would be 'deceiving'. She said: "I figured this was more about how the photos would turn out or something along those lines, but I’m set on wearing white. I told him this and I could see that he was annoyed but he let it go."
She picked a white dress at the end of last year, resulting in an argument. She wrote: "He asked to see the dress I picked, but I said no because I wanted it to be a surprise for our wedding day.
"He asked me to at least tell him what color it was, and when I said white, he threw a fit. I honestly do not see why this was a big deal, almost everyone wears white on their wedding day."
She added: "He told me that brides only wear white when they are pure." The woman had a long-term boyfriend in school but her fiance was a virgin when they met, which made him feel insecure in the relationship.
The man's mother disagree's with him. The poster wrote: "His mom and I stood in our living room and argued about my sex life being shown in a dress. His mom stated that he is no longer a virgin either so maybe he should wear red too and he burst out crying."
She added that he 'is still stating that me wearing white would be deceiving all of the guests and that it is different for guys'.
The woman says she now feels disgusted and may call off the wedding. She added: "He’s not even religious so I know this is just about him still thinking about me losing my virginity at 18 before I even knew him."
The post attracted more than 1,400 comments, mostly telling her to cancel the wedding. One replied: "If he is this insecure after six years together, things are not going to improve," adding: "'I'd seriously consider what you are signing up for."
Another added: "Girl, run! Disrespectful, petty, immature, to name a few red flags."
