The dating world is a scary land today, making the advice of “finding the one” a rather terrifying experience with the potential of giving life long nightmares – like this real-life story of a woman who went on a date “feeling good” about the guy only to face his “test,” pass it, and realize her bitter experience was just beginning.
In a since-deleted Reddit post, the woman in question asked the community if she is the “a****le* for rejecting a guy she met on a first date based on how the seemingly normal-at-first events unfolded.
As the story goes, she was set up for the date by a mutual friend and turned up at a cafe to meet the 31-year-old man. They ordered some food, and all was going well – great conversations, common habits, and she felt good about the man… until the $100 bill came. That’s when “things changed.”
Her intention was to split the bill, but he instead handed it to her and asked if she could pay it. Not bothered by the request, she agreed and paid for the meal. But the second she did, he got a “huge grin on his face and said, ‘Congratulations, you passed the test! You’re not a gold digger.”
Yep, the typical mentality that a woman is after a man’s money – whether the man has even enough for anyone to dig, is never really taken into account.
Anyway, he narrated that he had one such ex in the past who wanted him to pay for everything, and since that experience, he first “tests” women he dates. The justification only managed to infuriate the woman, and she gave him an earful before leaving.
“I told him that I’m not his ex and he has no right to treat me like I’m guilty until proven innocent. I also said he’s not some prize that I need to pass tests for.”
Her next step was to let the mutual friend in on the experience and make it clear that she was not interested in a second date.
But apparently, the man wasn’t ready to take no for an answer, and despite her blocking him everywhere, he didn’t stop contacting her – he made new accounts, used obscure messaging apps, and even reached out to her via LinkedIn. And we know what kind of men try to flirt via LinkedIn – creeps.
“At first, it was stuff like ‘I just want to explain,’ then ‘You’re not like other girls, I know that.’ Then it turned into full paragraphs about how I’m ‘punishing’ him for protecting himself and how he’s the one who feels betrayed.”
So far, she has avoided him, further creeped out by the insistent stalking. But at this point, “just seeing a notification with his name gives me this weird, anxious feeling.” But his shady behavior has made her realize that he was never going to make an effort to know her. His “stunt” was only to judge her and other women, compare them to his ex, and see if they “measured up.”
“And now he’s acting like I owe him a second chance because I ‘passed.’ ”
The original post has been deleted, probably in response to the few judgmental responses. But the majority, sadly, could relate.
