Anger is an emotion. It is a way for you to express your displeasure, a form of resistance and also a means of survival. However, when your anger becomes rage and takes the form of aggression, it could do more damage than you can imagine. Being unable to control it could add to your woes, making every aspect of your life seem like a challenge.
Having said that, it is important for you to first identify whether you have any anger-related issues. Find out if you have trouble controlling it, and see if it's impacting your physical and mental health. That's when you can look for various measures, self-calming strategies and resort to anger management.
Some people may be more angry than others
Everyone gets angry. However, the intensity may vary from one person to another.
Some people get angry easily, stay grumpy and find it difficult to calm down. While there are people whose anger is an outcome of built up emotion. Some throw things, shout, yell and have a loud way of expressing their dissatisfaction. Then there are those who isolate themselves, sulk, remain grumpy for a long time, or get ill.
The patience level in people who are short tempered is really low and it often arises out of frustration. Now, there could be many reasons for it. Depending on what you've experienced in the past, your family history, if you have been subject to a traumatic experience, have dealt with loss or are grieving, your anger could be an outcome of it all.
Sometimes letting it all out is the best way to free yourself from the shackles of frustration and annoyance. But not being able to control it could be detrimental to your health as well as your mental wellbeing.
How anger management plays a crucial role?
Often, expressing your anger in a violent way is not the answer to your problems. It can be communicated in a controlled manner.
Anger management helps you do that. It is a therapeutic process that helps you understand your rage better. Besides helping you identify the early signs of uncontrolled anger, it teaches you ways to resolve your issues, calm yourself down and channel that wrath into something productive.
From relaxation techniques, behavioural therapies to exercises and if needed, medications, anger management consists of multiple ways to manage your anger in the right way.
When to seek intervention
Anger and aggression are two sides of the same coin. While anger is an emotion, when it takes the form of violence, it becomes aggression. Therefore, it could lead to various signs and symptoms, both emotional and physical.
Physical symptoms of anger issues include:
- High blood pressure
- Heart palpitations
- Muscle tension and tightness
- Loss of consciousness
- A tingling sensation
Emotional symptoms of anger issues include:
- Reckless behavior
- Frequent arguments
Effective strategies to tame your temper
Firstly, it is important to identify your stressors. Know what's triggering your anger. Is it something to do with your past or has it only become more frequent in the recent past? Once you do that, here are some self-calming strategies to adopt.
- Breathe until you feel relaxed.
- Talk to yourself, tell yourself to 'relax', 'to calm down' and 'take it easy'/
- Running, brisk walking or any other exercise routine can help calm your nerves.
- Yoga can also help relax your muscles, release tension.
- Rather than shouting, communicate your anger in the form of productive conversation.
- Think of a solution, a way forward, rather than revisiting the factors that lead to such stressful circumstances.
- Give yourself a time-out, a break in simple terms. Distance yourself from the negative environment and surround yourself with positive energy.
You're not alone
Many people deal with anger issues. Some don't even realize it until it's too late. That said, if you think you're alone, you're wrong. Popular celebrities like Alec Baldwin, Chris Brown and Mel Gibson have been called out for having terrible rage. They have been sentenced to anger management too. But in the end, it's all about the change you want to bring unto yourself.