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Rebecca Koncienzcy & Fran Way

"Why is my sister in heaven?": Family's heartache at death of baby girl at just five days old

A mum has spoken about losing her baby girl at just five days old.

Emma Weaver, 39, says that the family speak about little Georgie every day - with her youngest child 'hugging her picture' and asking 'why is Georgie in Heaven?'

The nurse and her husband Leigh, 40, said that their new baby was born weighing just 4lbs at 34 weeks and that doctors didn't realise what the problem was until she was born, she told the Liverpool ECHO.

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At first, they thought she had something wrong with her bowel but investigations showed that baby Georgie had no windpipe and she was diagnosed with a condition called tracheal agenesis.

Emma, from Neston, said: "She was struggling to breathe and at first they said she was just 'a bit drunk' from the pethidine.

"We were transferred from Arrowe Park Hospital to Alder Hey and it was there they told us it could be tracheal agenesis.

"They said she would need a CT scan and if there was a bit of a windpipe they could work with that, but if there was nothing, it would be incompatible with life.

"We were just in shock, we had no idea of any of this until she was born."

When scans showed Georgie had no windpipe, Emma said: "I asked the consultants' advice on whether to bring in my daughter Jess, who was six at the time, just with her being so young.

"They said to me 'how can she say goodbye to someone she has never met?'

"Looking back, it was absolutely the right decision to bring her in, all the staff at Alder Hey were so wonderful with her and Georgie, they let her help take her hand and footprints and so did Georgie's cousins, all the family got to meet her.

"We only had such a short time with her so we had to make as many memories with her as we could.

"As the days went on she would respond to us a bit more, particularly when Jess would talk to her, her little feet and hands would be dancing.

"And she had the tickliest feet, you would only have to touch them and she would be dancing."

Georgie was five days old when she passed away in 2014, her sister Jess is now 13 and Emma has had another little girl since, Iris who is four-years-old.

Emma said: "This September would have been Georgie's first day at junior school. Losing her so early means we missed all these memories with her, but marking them and talking about them keeps her part of our family, because she still is very much part of the family.

"We talk about her every day and Iris will go and hug her photo. She is also at an age now where she is starting to question and it will sometimes be just while you're driving and she will ask 'why is Georgie in heaven?'

"But we have always felt it is good to be open and talk about it."

When Georgie passed away Emma and Leigh used the Alder Hey bereavement counselling at the Alder Centre who helped them through their grief.

Emma said: "About five months after Jess started struggling, so we asked for their counselling services for her and a lovely lady called Karen helped her so much.

"She would go and it would just be her space to talk to someone who wasn't part of it and say whatever she wanted without the fear of upsetting anyone.

"They completed a workbook together where she wrote letters to Georgie and we still look back on it now as more memories with her."

Since Jess saw her baby sister in hospital she said she wanted to raise money for poorly children, and last year she won the ECHO's award for fundraising.

She has taken part in an annual bike ride and has raised over £25,000 for the Alder Hey Children’s Charity, with her biggest challenge consisting of riding over 300 miles in a single month.

Emma said: "We are so proud of her, it is an unbelievable amount of money.

"The bike riding started because we had bought her a pink trike the day Georgie was born as a gift to her from the baby.

"She had been riding it around New Brighton when I realised I was in labour."

The family have now been invited to open Alder Hey's new children's bereavement centre today, Friday, September 10.

Emma said: "The fundraising was a coping mechanism, but now it is a way of keeping Georgie's legacy alive.

"I was so shocked to be asked, we are so honoured and privileged and this is another way we can keep Georgie's memory alive.

"Everybody has just been so lovely, particularly the help that has been given to Jess.

"She was only six at the time and it was a big thing for us to try and deal with but for her it was especially hard. We couldn’t have asked for better care and support really. "

Speaking on her experience with one of the staff members, Jess said: "She was so nice to me, even now if I get in touch with her, it is quite emotional. She used to play games with me and do activities with me and it was really fun."

The Alder Centre is unique and the only one of its kind in the country. It is a national centre of excellence providing outstanding bereavement and grief counselling with care and education for anyone affected by the death of a child.

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