I am 33 years old and I have only had one relationship, which lasted a year – until my boyfriend confessed that he had cheated on me and was having a child with another woman. The whole experience broke my heart: I had never had a boyfriend before him; most of the guys I liked and to whom I expressed my feelings to would usually reply that they liked me but not in “that way”. It has been almost four years since, and in that time I have tried everything to forget him, move on and start afresh: I focused on my career and changed my job; I went to work abroad and had a great time … still guys are not interested in me.
I have tried internet dating, I like going out with friends or even on my own, I have been going to bars, clubs and festivals with no result. I am feminine in the way I dress and I think I am witty and friendly, I love football and I am a good cook (or so I have been told). I’d love to have a family but more than anything I would love to be part of and enjoy a healthy relationship with man. Is there something I am doing wrong?
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