On Friday and Monday we publish the problems that will feature in a forthcoming Dear Jeremy advice column in the Guardian Money supplement, so readers can offer their own advice and suggestions. We then print the best of your comments alongside Jeremy's own insights. Here is the latest dilemma – what are your thoughts?
I work for a large international organisation, and six months ago moved from one overseas office to another. I have moved around the world quite a lot so am aware it takes time and patience to move between countries.
When I arrived I realised the manager was barely managing the staff, there was low capacity and one of my colleagues was really under-delivering. In order to get some support from this person I had to take over the day-to-day management and coaching for him, and have been passed all the work that has remained undone in the previous months, as well as my own heavy workload looking forward.
On top of this my manager completed a performance review with me, in which she praised my work but made some comments about my character and style with which I disagreed. I asked her to review it and she referred to three instances where she felt I had been offensive to her, but didn't offer specifics. I believe she is feeling defensive and challenged on her management weaknesses.
I think the situation is being manipulated to cast aspersions on my character, and feel really despairing that I am doomed to fail. I am also wary of going to HR who, from some advice I have previously taken, are unlikely to do anything, or more likely to support a manager in any dispute.
I am very distressed that I am in a new job and a new country and in this situation, and it is beginning to affect my happiness and certainly my ability to deliver at work. I feel burnt out, stressed and depressed.
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