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Violent partner filmed abusive attacks on petrified mum who feared he'd kill her

A mum thought she was going to die during five years of abuse from her violent partner who filmed the brutal attacks.

Ivka Ivancakova, 35, was tortured by vile Sean Lashley, who hit, kicked and brainwashed the mother of his child.

Some distressing attacks happened in front of their daughter Lilly, who was just months old when the abuse started.

Shocking photos obtained exclusively by Mirror Online show Ivka, a fashion model, with bruises, a huge black eye and scratches across her face.

Lashley, 44, was jailed for three-and-a-half years last month at Kingston Crown Court for ABH and coercive controlling behaviour. The thug was found guilty after a trial.

Metropolitan Police called his sick torture "a sustained campaign of abuse".

Fighting back the tears, mum-of-one Ivka today told Mirror Online: "I was happy at first when I heard the verdict. Then at home, I started to cry. I cried all night.

The model was left with bruises and scratches on her body (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)
Sean Lashley has been jailed for the vile behaviour (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)

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"I remember when he hit my face once, I realised that one day I was going to be dead. How much more could I take?"

And Ivka even considered ending her own life after years of torment.

"I was literally crying non-stop at one point. If I did not have my friends, I was done," she said.

The model, who moved to London from Slovakia in 2008 for top work on catwalks and lucrative fashion contracts, was first physiologically and mentally abused, and stopped from seeing friends.

Ivka has bravely spoken of her ordeal to help others (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)
The mum, of Battersea, London, suffered in silence for years (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)

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It quickly became violent and Lashley kicked and hit her in the stomach and face. He even once threatened to strike Ivka with an iron.      

Ivka, who has also worked at The Body Shop, said: "This was very personal and emotional. It was physical, but emotional too and that hurts. It really messes with you.

"He was once ironing his shirt. I was sitting on the sofa and we were arguing maybe. Then he suddenly put the iron within inches, so close, to my face. I was petrified. I thought he was going to do it. I was so scared."

The victim first met Lashley in London in 2009, one year after moving to the country.

She admitted she was wooed by him at first.

Ivka admitted Lashley lured her in at first (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)

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"I was happy with him for years. He was great to start with, really funny and cool. He was caring.

"He was a person that cared genuinely about me for who I was. He was there for me.

"He was just like this really cool guy."

And Ivka fell pregnant in the summer of 2013 with a "miracle baby" as doctors had previously told her she was unable to conceive.

But she says Lashley, from Wandsworth, southwest London, "changed suddenly". She claims he struggled with the new responsibility.

Ivka fought back the tears as she recalled the traumatic experience (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)
Ivka was hit and kicked a number of times (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)

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The mother continued: "He quickly stopped me having a relationship with my family, even after the birth. He brainwashed me.

"He would call me so many names, even in front of Lilly. This was very personal and emotional.

"He was crazy in that last two years. He would say I was a paedophile, that all white people are paedophiles.

"He thought I was sleeping with another dad there. He said I was sleeping with everything that moved actually. I wasn't.

"He did not let me go out with my friends. He controlled me. I tried to make friends with other parents at my daughter's nursery but he didn't let me.

"He called me white trash. He was racist. He kept telling me I should go back to where I'm from - 'the farm' as I'm from the countryside in Slovakia."

The former Body Shop employee was bullied both mentally and physically (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)

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When Lashley's behaviour turned violent, Ivka feared for her and Lilly's welfare. The yob even filmed some attacks, footage played in court.

The former waitress, who is now living away from London with pals, went on: "Lilly struggled with her behaviour throughout this. She saw everything. It was pretty traumatic for her.

"Who was going to take care of Lilly when I was dead? He wouldn’t."   

Emotional Ivka suffered in silence for years until colleagues at The Body Shop became suspicious. They found her crying alone on several occasions early last year.

Ivka was in a relationship with Sean for almost 10 years and said he made her happy at the start (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)

Ivka added: "I never said anything for a while. I finally told them last year about everything.

"They persuaded me to go to the police. I did and they suggested I get away from London so I went to stay with friends."

And Lashley was finally snagged by Metropolitan Police .

Ivka, who bravely gave evidence at the trial, wants to help other women - and men - in the same devastating position.

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She said: "I have no confidence. I have difficulty trusting people now. It is stupid but you start to believe all the stuff they brainwash you with.

"I know it is hard but, even if you love someone like this, you need to look after yourself. You need to be strong and start a new life. I know how difficult it is but there is help out there.

"You might end up dead.

"Abuse is everywhere now. Something has to be done to change it and men and women, because men can be victims too, must tell someone.

The ordeal caused the mother to become suicidal (Phil Harris / Daily Mirror)

"Be strong in court, it is difficult but you must be strong.

"He needs help. He just needs to be held responsible for everything he did.

"To be honest, I don’t care about the number of years really. I did not want him to go to prison at first. But now he will get help hopefully.

"I would like to praise the police for their support."

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PC Troy Sampson, who led the investigation for Met Police, told Mirror Online: "Lashley carried out a sustained campaign of abuse in which he was not only violent towards his victim but also subjected her to verbal abuse and controlled her work and social life.

"She will never be able to forget how she was treated but we hope this sentence brings some form of closure.

"The Met is committed to tackling domestic abuse and violence in all its forms and we hope this sends out a message that there is a way out for anyone who is in an oppressive or abusive relationship."

Sandra Horley CBE, chief executive at Refuge said: "Violence against women and girls (VAWG) is the biggest threat facing women in the UK today. one in four women will be affected by domestic abuse at some point in their lifetime. Two women are killed by their current or ex-partner every week.

"Domestic violence is a matter of life and death. Rarely a one-off incident, it is crucial that women understand domestic abuse – physical and non-physical – is a crime and they are not alone. Organisations like Refuge can help."

   
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