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Kelly-Ann Mills

UK's 'most generous couple' have fostered more than 600 children over 56 years

An elderly couple have staked their claim to be Britain's most generous couple after fostering more than 600 children.

Pauline and Roger Fitter, 81 and 86, have finally retired from caring for youngsters after an incredible 56 years.

They achieved the incredible milestone having decided from an early age they wanted to help out as many parent-less children as they could.

The kindhearted couple have fostered children from as far away as Belarus and Lithuania - with ages ranging between just three days old to their late teenage years.

They found time to raise five children of their own, including a foster child they decided to adopt, and even continued to foster kids during the Covid-19 pandemic.

Pauline with two foster children while on holiday on a UK beach in 2010 (Solent News & Photo Agency)

Now, Pauline and Roger have decided to retire. They estimate they fostered an incredible 620 children - but confess they stopped counting after 600.

Pauline admits their four-bed detached house in Haslemere, West Sussex, will finally be quieter to return to for Roger - who still works as a private forestry consultant.

But, they keep the memories of all their 620 foster children alive in picture albums - keeping photographs of every single one.

Pauline, who is originally from Yorkshire, said: "I came down south to look after Roger's two children because he had lost his wife suddenly, who was a childhood friend.

"They were both two, and I had only intended to stay for a month - though it didn't quite work out that way.

"I was a children's nurse before I began fostering and my parents used to tell me that aged five I knew I wanted to look after children.

"I was born in 1940, during the war, and I didn't see my father for the first five years of my life - but I also knew a lot of my friends' fathers never came back at all.

"I decided as early as 19 that I wanted to look after children who didn't have mummies or daddies - I knew I wanted to stop as many as I could from becoming institutionalised."

Pauline and Roger in 1967 with their first born Joanne (Solent News & Photo Agency)

Pauline and Roger married in September 1965 and took in their first foster child later that year.

"In December we took our first child from West Sussex Social Services and rushed out to find something to put under the Christmas tree for a three day old baby," Pauline said.

"He was with us for ten weeks. He suffered from bronchitis, and cared for him in a handmade steam tent.

"Then one day he was suddenly taken away and found a foster family. That night as we stared at the cot at the end of our bed we could still see the divot where he had slept.

Roger and Pauline with a child they fostered, stood in front of their house where all the children were fostered (Solent News & Photo Agency)
Roger with one of their foster children while on a day trip to the Isle of Wight (Solent News & Photo Agency)

"I just sobbed and sobbed and Roger said, 'if this is what fostering is like, we are not doing it again'."

Little did Roger know they would see around 619 new arrivals over the next half a century.

Pauline said: "Almost immediately after that first child we had five new born babies in one year, one after the other, which meant a lot of night feeds at two in the morning and not much sleep.

"Times have changed now; back in those days if you said yes they didn't ask many questions. There was no training, no real checks.

"Now it can take up to nine months to get approval from social services and we are something like 9,000 foster carers short.

"One summer - it just happened - we had 11 kids at once. Our four and two from a boarding school, then another came, and another... it just built up out of nowhere.

"I was Girl Guides leader at the time so we turned the back garden into a camp; sleeping in tents and even doing morning inspections which the girls always won.

"Roger used to joke that he'd count the heads at the dinner table when he got in from work - just to check if anyone else had arrived.

"One boy who was in the Army came to us every weekend before going on to fight in the Falklands.

"He wrote extraordinarily detailed and descriptive postcards about what he'd seen, and used to ask us to send him lady's winter tights to keep him warm."

Pauline with one of the children during Christmas 2006 (Solent News & Photo Agency)

Having offered their roof to children for 56 years in what Roger jokes was a 'production line', Pauline decided to retire from fostering to offer her husband a quieter home to return to.

She said: "We handed our last child to his permanent foster family earlier in May this year.

"He had come to us at the beginning of the first lockdown - a lively but lovely little baby of 20 months - and he followed a four-year-old who left us just before that lockdown in March."

A pond now stands at the end of the couples' garden, recently built by Roger to replace the trampoline, swings and slide which used to stand there.

But Pauline admits she has rarely shed tears when waving goodbye, saying: "We used to have a rule that when I bought them a suitcase it meant their future was about to begin, and we always treated their exits like celebrations.

"It's like climbing a mountain: we take them up and walk back down to take another child up.

The couple have now retired from fostering children (Simon Czapp/Solent News)

"But seeing the last child leave in May was especially hard, because I knew no more children were coming to replace him. I usually strip the bed, remake the room and get ready for the next."

Many children who had stayed at the Fitters house have kept in contact, with some sending photos of their wedding days from foreign shores, and others returning to reminisce.

Pauline added: "One time a woman I didn't recognise said hello to me in a caravan park in Chichester, saying 'Aunty Pauline?'.

"She was there with her husband and kids, and it was only after I saw her children's faces that I knew who she was - they looked just like her when she was a child.

"She had come to us when she was just three years old and stayed for around 18 months.

"We have met up with her adopted parents since, who tell us she's a great mother. I was absolutely thrilled to hear that."

The couple are now encouraging others to volunteer for foster children, saying the rewards are well were the efforts: "A lot of people think they wouldn't be able to do it but there's so much support and training that all they really need to do is apply.

"I really wish a few more people would try it and see if it's for them. It's surprising our house is still standing after 600 people have called it home, but the rewards are well worth it.

"When a quiet child who won't let anyone touch them lets you give them a goodnight kiss, or you hear them singing and laughing - those are the real rewards."

West Sussex County Council commemorated the couple's achievement with an afternoon tea at Chichester County Hall earlier this summer, during which they were presented with a plaque commending their achievements.

Daniel Ruaux, Assistant Director of Children Services at the local authority said: "Pauline and Roger are amongst the most caring and loving foster parents I have had the privilege to meet.

"Their commitment and nurture to help our children reach their potential is extraordinary and so very inspirational. Their love and devotion has changed and influenced the lives of over 600 children and we can't thank them enough for over 50 years of fostering with us."

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