After losing my wife to cancer six months ago after 25 years together, I was extremely lonely. Through a dating site, though, I met a lovely woman and we were enjoying a great relationship, including exciting love-making. However, in the past week she has suddenly found she is not sexually attracted to me at all. We have talked a lot and I think it is a combination of my falling for her and needing her, linked to becoming less relaxed in our time together. I am very upset and feel stuck. While she has appreciated my emotional openness, it feels as if I need to channel some of my deeper feelings elsewhere. Help!
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