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Jessica Valenti

The week in patriarchy: take a moment to step away for survival

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The best way to win a handshake with Trump? Deny him the chance. Photograph: Alik Keplicz/AP

I’ve been thinking a lot about how to deal with the overwhelm of the everyday stress of being an American right now – especially an American who cares about politics. So much is happening you’re not sure where to focus your attention, or how to make the most impact to help.

I’m tired of the “self-care” memes and advice, because there’s no way taking a breath or getting some extra sleep is going to help what’s going on now. But sometimes you do need to step away: turn off Twitter, stop thinking about Trump and the possible impending death of democracy. Because how else can you go on another day? So let’s not call it self-care – let’s call it survival.

Glass half full

The organizers behind the historic Women’s March are planning another action – this time against the NRA. So if you’re in the Washington DC area on 14 July, you now have some righteous plans.

What I’m RTing

Who I’m reading

Janet Mock on “pretty privilege”; Christopher Ingraham at WaPo on how the gender wage gap has tripled at the White House under Trump; and for good measure, I’m re-reading Rebecca Solnit’s Men Explain Things To Me.

What I’m watching

I need a break, so I’m fully enjoying this history of voguing.

How outraged I am

This week, we found out that women aren’t allowed to have uncovered shoulders in the US House chamber – sexist dress codes are nothing new, but still ridiculous. So I’m at a irritated-but-not-frothing six out of 10.

How I’m making it through this week

This video on repeat.

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