A woman on TikTok says she almost got in the car with a severely drunk man—possibly an alcoholic—who crashed his car and got a DUI later that night. The reason why she texted him back the next day? The Hinge match was a really good kisser.
In a video with more than 26,000 views, Ashley (@standardissuebucket) described her experience going on a date with an attractive man she matched with on Hinge.
What happened on this date?
“I matched with this guy on Hinge and he is like… the hottest guy I’ve ever seen, and he wanted to meet up right away… like right after matching,” Ashley said. “I’m like, OK, I know what this means, but I kind of don’t care, so I’m on board.”
The man suggested they meet at Buffalo Wild Wings. Ashley decided to go “just to see what happens.”
“I get there and I expect to be catfished. It’s him, [and] he’s even hotter in real life. It’s instantly clear that something is wrong with him [though]. He can’t keep eye contact with me. He’s dropping things on the ground, but he can’t pick them back up,” she said.
Ashley asked the man if he had been hit in the head earlier that day, noting how strangely he was acting. She wondered whether he had been drinking, but thought he hadn’t because his Hinge profile listed him as “sober.”
“We could not hold a conversation, period… We do not end up getting food. He was just on another plane of existence entirely,” she said. “I pay the bill…[and] we go outside to the parking lot, and I’m just ready to go because no matter how hot he is, I feel like I’m not speaking to a human being.”
In the parking lot, the man asked to kiss her. She agreed. He then asked if she wanted to go home with him. Ashley declined, still feeling like something was off.
The next morning, she got a text from him. She opened it to find a message saying he had crashed his car after leaving Buffalo Wild Wings and gotten a DUI. Looking him up online, Ashley discovered he had received eight criminal charges that same night after their chance encounter.
“Imagine if I had gotten in the car with him and he killed me,” she said. “He was apparently drunk that entire time, even though he claimed he was sober.”
What does ‘sober‘ mean on Hinge?
Some commenters suggested that listing “sober” on a dating profile might indicate someone is in recovery from alcoholism. Hinge offers an option to say “doesn’t drink,” which is distinct from claiming to be sober.
There’s a difference between not drinking and living a sober lifestyle. According to the OAD Clinic, living sober is a “commitment to one’s lifestyle” of not drinking. People who live sober are often previous alcoholics who have since quit.
TikTok begs for part two
While some TikTok users expressed concern about Ashley’s safety, many were asking for part two of the story. She had mentioned that she continued talking to the man afterward.
Many questioned why she even messaged him back the next morning, but as Ashley noted in her caption, it was “not even the worst date [she’d] been on.”
“First of all, so happy you didn’t get in the car with him! Your storytelling is spot on,” one commenter wrote. “Second of all, why is it always the psychos that are good looking and good kissers?”
Another asked, “Girl! Where is your survival instinct?!”
@standardissuebucket Guy almost k*lls me on a date, gets arrested, still not even the worst date I've been on. #storytime #datingstory #hinge ♬ Ponchielli Dance of the Hours – Aura Classica
The Mary Sue has reached out to Hinge via email and Ashley via TikTok direct message for comment.
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