As part of the Queer Eye Fab Five, Karamo Brown sure knows a thing or two about success in all areas of life.
Brown is responsible for making over the cultural aspects of people’s lives on the wildly successful reality TV series, helping the group’s subjects improve themselves from the inside out.
As such, he is considered by many to be a guru when it comes to wellbeing, self-belief and success, and Brown has revealed that he is often asked for life advice.
One topic that his fans and followers are particularly keen to hear his thoughts on, however, is relationships, and Brown has now revealed his three top tips for success when it comes to love.
In a video posted to Instagram, the reality TV star shared his best advice for a healthy relationship:
1. Set clear boundaries from the beginning
When you start dating someone new, it can be easy to think you don't need to think about any of the serious aspects of a relationship, but Brown believes this is a no-no and stresses you need to clarify with your partner what each of you is looking for from the get-go.
“Having a relationship with no boundaries is like driving through traffic with no stop signs. It’s reckless,” Brown says.
“People need to understand when they can go, when they need to stop, when they need to slow down, and when they can turn left or right. And the only way they can know that is by you setting the boundaries up for them.”
2. Understand your relationship is like a bank account
“If you withdraw a lot from your relationship, eventually you’re going to be in the red. So you constantly need to reinvest,” he explains. “If you withdraw by not communicating, the next time you reinvest, you communicate.
“But you also need to do a little bit more - maybe a romantic gesture. That’s how you add to the relationship, so that it’s flourishing and growing.”
3. Understand that your trauma from your past will come up
“You might have experienced mistrust, and so that might rear its ugly head, but it’s okay,” Brown assures. “Acknowledge it, let the other person know, and allow yourself to grow through that by talking about it.”
