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Polyamorous family so close they have no idea who children's dads are

A polyamorous family, made up of two sets of married couples, are so close they don't know the biological fathers of their children. Taya Hartless, 27 is married to Sean Hartless, 45, and they are in a 'quad' relationship with Tyler Rodgers, 35 who is married to Alysia Rodgers, 33, WalesOnline reports..

Together the four of them parent their two children and Tyler and Alysia's children, who they had before meeting Taya and Sean. The two couples met online in 2019, hoping to mix up their sex life however they soon all developed feelings for each other.

In 2020 both couples moved in together and then had two children together and as they all sleep together they don't who the dads of their children are. The quad has agreed this is how they want their relationship to be and do not want to find out who the dads are.

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Taya explained how the quad relationship began, she said: "None of us had been polyamorous before, but we all just met and fell in love...From the first night we met, we all wanted to just see more of each other."

However she did explain the relationship took some adjusting to, she said: "It is true that it wasn't always easy - it took me a while to admit I had feelings for someone else - and we definitely do get jealous sometimes. But now it's so natural to us all and I feel so grateful to have multiple partners to raise children with."

She added: "It wasn't easy - there was a lot of hesitations around having feelings. Sean was the first to point it out - he said 'we can't deny this is happening".

"We agreed to talk it out to see what the future would look like. At first, I was really scared to come out and admit my feelings for Tyler - I was scared to let someone else in. But eventually we all admitted how we felt."

Sean and Taya married in 2015 and Tyler and Alysia married in 2012 and already had two children a son, eight, and a daughter, six. Once admitting their feelings for each the quad decided to take their relationship further and move into together.

The move happened in early 2020 and soon after the quad were living through the coronavirus pandemic and in lockdown together. In the relationship everyone is equal to each other, despite previous marital status.

In the relationship the men switch rooms every night and Taya explained how the dynamic worked, she said: "We are all on the same page in this quad - although some of us are married, it is a true square with no inner sections."

"As far as dating, we try and do a quad date once a month. We also try and prioritise individual dates too, although it might take a month to get each of us out."

In August 2020 Alysia found out she was pregnant and Taya became pregnant in March 2021. All four parents agreed to love and raise the children as their own.

Taya said: "There was no regulation of who the father was and we said we didn't care. We don't know and don't want to know - we said we would all be parents to all of them."

Taya is a stay-at-home mum, while Alysia, electrician Tyler, and Sean who works in a high school go to work during the week. Taya explained how she loved the children all evenly, she said:

"I have stayed home with him since he was a few months old and there is nothing that would change my relationship with him if I were biologically connected to him. I find it very easy to love a child of any of the people that I love – that’s the same for all the children.”

The family has encountered negativity about their relationship as many people do not understand what polyamory is, she said: “A lot of people think polyamory is deviant in some way and it isn’t ‘wholesome’ but for us it’s just our relationship."

“Some people find it hard to understand why anyone would date when already married, but it’s not just about the end goal of marriage. It’s about spending time together and having a support system."

The family has also "had some pushback" from close family and friends who have distanced themselves from the family. Many of their family and friends have been supportive and Taya said the quad is "committed for the long run", she said:

“I’m just really excited for the future and raising our kids together. I can’t wait to be the big crazy family that all shows up together. It’s a messy hectic crazy wonderful life – that about sums us up!”

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