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Imogen McGuckin & Elaine Blackburne

Newlyweds told to make memories after heartbreaking cancer diagnosis

A couple have been told to make memories after a devastating cancer diagosis. Jo Reeves' husband Ben has had a number of brain tumours over the past 12 years but all had been successfully treated.

So when they learned the cancer was back they had hoped it would be cleared once more with surgery and chemotherapy. However earlier this month he was given the heartbreaking diagnosis that this time the cancer was stage four and nothing could be done.

Now Jo's friend Dawn Carey, from Bridgwater, is hoping to raise enough money to pay for a special break for the couple - along with professional photographs - after Ben, 38, was given just a few months to live.

Dawn, 47, told Somerset Live how Jo, 48, had always "put everyone else above herself". She told how Ben and Jo, from Burnham-on-Sea, married last year in a simple ceremony at the local register office but had not had a proper honeymoon.

Now, Dawn is doing all she can to make Jo's remaining time with Ben as memorable as possible. She told how the couple had been left devastated following the diagnosis.

Dawn (left) and Jo have been friends for years (Dawn Carey)

She said: "He thought it would be fine, just the same as usual - some surgery, a few rounds of chemo and it would be gone again. So we were all shocked to hear that Ben has just a few months left.

"The doctors told him and Jo to go and make memories, so that is why I launched the 'Making Memories' campaign. They have never even been abroad together. I just want them to be able to get away somewhere and not have to worry about anything for a week."

Jo has already faced heartache in her life. In 2014, the mum-of-three came home to find her son, Charley, had taken his own life.

After that, she "went on a mission" to provide better support for young people's mental health, Dawn explained. "She delayed her grief for three years because she was hell-bent on raising awareness and starting a charity in Charley's memory.

"Jo was the year above me in school, so we knew of each other and she was friends with my cousin. But it was when we had our daughters a month apart and that we struck up a friendship. So I knew Charley before he passed and I helped to shake some tins for the charity," she said.

Jo's son Charley took his own life in 2014 (Jo Reeves)

Over time, Dawn became more and more involved with Jo's charity, "In Charley's Memory" (ICM), and eventually she took up the CEO role. "I think me being there allowed Jo to step back," she explained. Now ICM offers counselling sessions to 160 young people a week, helping teens from across the county without any government or lottery funding.

It was about five years ago, that Jo was in the pub on Charley's "angelversary" and she struck up a conversation with Ben, who was a plasterer at the time, "and as they say, the rest is history", Dawn laughed.

"Jo really was not looking for love, her focus was on her children. But when Ben came along, for the first time in a long time, we saw the old Jo again. She was even able to go back to teaching," she said.

Ben and Jo got married last year but haven't been on a proper honeymoon together (Jo Reeves)

The whole family was on a real high at the start of the year, following the birth of Jo's first grandchild Pixie-Rose. "Now she just feels like she has had the rug pulled from under her. What is so heartbreaking is that she is going to have to say goodbye again," Dawn said.

But before that time comes, Dawn is determined to give Jo and Ben the proper honeymoon they deserve. "I want them to have a little mini honeymoon together and get some professional photos done, so she can put them up on her wall to remember him by."

You can donate to Dawn's GoFundMe campaign for Jo and Ben here.

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