A new mum has admitted she 'can't bear' he step children since having a baby of her own.
The woman said she has 'lost all patience' with her husband's children from a previous relationship since she became a mother herself.
She says the children's mother - her husband's ex - expects her to look after the six and nine-year-olds during the upcoming Easter holidays, despite having a newborn in the house.
Posting on mumsnet the shattered new mum says she just wants to 'lock herself away'. She said: "New baby and can't bear my step kids around help! - Just what the title says , new mum , new baby and trying to work it all out.
"I have found I've lost all patience with step kids aged 6 and 9 completely and just want to lock myself away with my baby and husband.
"I don't say anything negative to them I am always nice and accommodating but inside I want to just yell that I want to be left alone. Their DM has just rang wanting more contact time over the holidays I could have a breakdown over it!!
"I hate that I feel like this , but I just need to offload is this normal??? Will this feeling ever go away?"
The new mum said her life had been made more difficult by her husband's 'horrid' ex, who expects her to look after the stepkids while her husband - their dad - is at work.
She added: "The ex has been nothing more than horrid to be honest tarnished my experience completely. And yes would be me looking after the kids while husband is at work.
"My baby isn't sleeping through yet only three weeks old. The ex has told us we have to , as older kids are being "unfairly disadvantaged" by our new baby. Im so close to packing my bags and staying with my mum to just get away. But this would break my husbands heart."
The mum received dozens of messages of support from fellow mum son the social media page with some saying her husband can't expect her to look after his children.
One said: "The ex isn't the only one being horrid. Your h leaves you to parent his kids during contact. Break his heart? So what? He doesn't give a toss about yours. Pack up and go to your mum's. Stop parenting his kids, that's his bloody job. I'd leave him to it, he needs to step up and be a father."
Another said: "You’re not a bad person at all. You won’t be the first and you won’t be last to feel like this. Are you being made to look after the stepkids e.g. extra time during the holidays?"
Another added: "Why is she looking for more contact when she knows you are adjusting to your new baby? Would that mean you having them while dh is at work. Sorry no. Keep to the normal routine."
"Two separate issues here. Absolutely right to not expect you to be taking on childcare when 3 weeks post partum," added a fourth.
"But if the children's mum has had them the last few months homeschooling etc and their father only has them EOW. Yes he should be stepping up for more contact time and taking annual leave to have his children during holidays. Not acceptable for the mum to do everything.
"Has your husband only ever has the children EOW (every other weekend) and not extra during the holidays?"
A fifth mum added: "Well you can’t help feeling the way you do, but you would be unreasonable to, for example, reduce their visits. Remember they’re your baby’s siblings and the closer the bond they have, the more they will look out for each other as they grow up. Might be more helpful to see them that way rather than 'the step kids'."
