'My wife used my bank account to buy herself a £660 necklace for her birthday'

By Zahna Eklund

We all like the feeling of being spoiled on our birthday – but not many of us would go as far as taking money from our loved ones to buy our own presents.

That’s exactly what one woman did though, as her husband took to Reddit to explain she had taken $900 (£660) from his bank account to buy herself a necklace, even though he had already bought her a bracelet.

The man said his wife had been asking for the $300 (£220) bracelet for some time and was “thrilled” when she received it – before splashing his cash on even more pricey jewellery.

He wrote: “My wife's birthday was a couple of weeks ago. She was very honest and vocal about what she wanted, and it was SL buckled bracelet.

Money is tight for the couple, so the gifts took their toll on the man's bank account (stock image) (Getty Images)

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“I bought it for her and it cost me $300 using my own account (we do not purchase each other gifts using the joint account).

“Since money is tight this gift broke my back but still, I wanted her to feel appreciated at her birthday.

“I gave her the bracelet and she was thrilled. She said she admired it and put it on right away.”

The man and his wife then spent the day celebrating her birthday, but when the night was over, he discovered she’d bought herself the necklace.

The woman eventually returned the necklace, but is now ignoring her husband (stock image) (Getty Images/PhotoAlto)

And when pressed for a reason why, she said she “wasn’t sure” if her husband was actually going to get her a gift – so she did the work for him.

The man added: “Later that night, and after the birthday celebration was over, I found out that my wife purchased a $900 necklace using my account.

“I asked why she bought herself a gift knowing I already purchased her a gift, and asked why she used my money.

“She nervously said she wasn't sure that I was going to get her anything for her birthday, and so she planned ahead and bought the necklace.

“She said that she used my money because ... obviously the gift is supposed to come from me. I was puzzled as she explained her reasons.”

The husband then told his wife she needed to return the expensive necklace, but she refused – and instead suggested she return the bracelet.

Eventually the man got his wife to agree to send the necklace back, but she accused him of being “heartless and selfish” for not letting her keep both gifts.

He wrote in his Reddit post: “I was mad because $900 was a lot to spend on a gift, besides I already bought her a gift so this was unnecessary spending process.

“I told her since I did bring her the gift she wanted, she needed to return the ‘alternative’ gift she bought for herself. She refused and argued that I was being heartless and selfish to make her return her birthday gift.

“She said she will just return the $300 gift, but I said no and said she should return the $900 gift I never agreed to let her have.

“She returned it after I pressured her and kept sulking saying I'm a controlling jerk with no regard for her feelings on her birthday.

“She got her sister involved and she ended up calling me an abusive a**hole for making money a priority over my wife's happiness.”

But now the woman has since been slammed by over 2,000 Reddit users.

One person wrote: “That was so out of line. You don't just gift yourself a present with someone else's money.

“Are you allowed to get a $3000 TV next year with her money in case you don't like your actual gift? That's ridiculous.

While another said: “She’s really waving the red flags here, and she’s doubling down like there’s no tomorrow. Inconsiderate of her feelings?

“She stole from you to buy herself an expensive gift, and making her return it means you’re the bad guy? That’s a hell of a reach.”

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