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Luke Matthews

'My wife can't understand that working from home doesn't mean I can babysit our son'

A dad has criticised his wife for expecting him to do more around the house while he works from home during the pandemic - and it's really divided option.

The man explained that he "works hard to earn a good salary" and when he and his wife had their son four years ago, she gave up her job to be with their child and he became the sole source of income.

He said the arrangement was working out well until Covid-19 hit, when he began working from home. The dad usually works 5am-7pm six days a week, and at first he said he loved having no commute as it allowed him to spend more time with his family in the evenings.

However, he revealed: "The only problem is that my wife has struggled with the idea that the location of my job has changed but my responsibilities have not.

The dad was told he was working too many hours and expecting too much from his wife (stock image) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

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"I've had several discussions with her about the fact that even though I'm home now I'm not able to watch our son during the day, or explaining why I can't get to the dishes till that evening."

He said tension had been building over the dispute until it erupted this week when they were preparing for friends to come and visit for the weekend.

His wife told him they would be arriving a day earlier than expected on the Friday, and she wanted to take them out for food and to go shopping, so he would have to look after their son while he worked.

"I respond by saying again that I can't, I have work," he continues. "She gets angry at me saying she watches our son everyday while I just 'sit in my office from sun up to sun down' and how I should be able to watch our son so she can have a day off.

"She's given me the cold shoulder since then. I would love to spend the day with my son I just can't take the time off on such short notice."

After seeking back up for the way he handled it on Reddit, many people were keen to point out one vital part of the argument they felt he was overlooking.

One person argued that although they believed his wife was wrong in that specific disagreement to expect him to be able to take time off last minute, it stemmed from a bigger issue.

They wrote: "You are an a**hole because you are putting all of the child rearing on her even if she is a stay-at-home-mum. This boy is still your son. You working 14 hour days, 6 days a week is freaking ridiculous. Very few relationships can even last with work hours like this."

A second added: "14-hour days six days a week is simply not sustainable for ANY family or marriage."

And another said: "Seems like your job and money is more important than your family. Your wife deserves time to herself and help in the house, raising a child (pretty much alone) is a difficult job too."

What do you think? Let us know in the comments.

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