A bride who decided on a black-tie optional dress code for her upcoming wedding has been surprised by the way her family has responded.
Although she doesn't necessarily expect them all to wear "a tux or full-length gown" if they're not comfortable doing so, she did assume they'd at least make the effort to dress up a bit.
However, right from the beginning of the wedding planning process, her grandmother has insisted that she won't simply dress "fancy" for the big day, with her grandfather and uncle sharing the same attitude.
Her uncle is now insisting on wearing a pair of jeans to the ceremony, claiming that even a casual pair of khakis would be just "too formal for him."
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Taking to Reddit, the frustrated bride-to-be explained that her grandmother has simply reasoned that "all of the attention will be on me and no one cares or will notice what they're wearing".
She wrote: "When I explained that they will be in photos with me and I'd like them to wear something nice (not expecting a tux or full-length gown from them) she said my uncle and grandfather might have sport coats up in the attic.
"My mum has told me not to worry about it and also feels my relatives should be dressing appropriately for the wedding. She was in full support of a black-tie optional dress code because she felt it gave her more of a reason to offer to help them find something to wear - she even offered to rent my grandfather and uncle suits."
However, things took a turn yesterday during a family meet-up, when her insistent grandmother announced that her uncle would be wearing jeans on her special day.
The poster - who goes by the username u/cozyblankets01 - continued: "My mum told me not to worry about it and asked my grandmother to stop bringing it up but she continued to.
"My sister then chimed in and stated she doesn't understand why I care what my uncle wears. I felt like I was being accused of being a brat for not wanting guests at my wedding to wear jeans."
Although she doesn't think she's made any particularly unreasonable requests, the way her family is acting is making her wonder whether she is being a bit of a brat.
One fellow Reddit user reassured her: "Jeans are so important to him that he would refuse to go to a wedding if he couldn’t wear them? Uncle needs to grow up and (literally) put on his big boy pants.
"Sometimes you need to wear clothes that aren’t 100% comfortable out of respect for other people.
"It’s a wedding - it is completely reasonable to expect guests to not wear jeans. Your uncle (and grandmother, and other family members) are being unreasonable and disrespectful towards you.
"Yes, people talk about bridezillas, but asking people to not wear jeans to a wedding is not being a bridezilla."
Another suggested: "The answer is…tell them to dress 'nice', send them pictures of what would be considered the least they could do and if they can’t do that, then they might not want to come. Not being a bridezilla, you are just asking for the bare minimum."
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