A man has asked for advice after his wife announced plans to name their unborn son after her late ex-partner.
The couple is very excited to be pregnant, but unlike many parents who find naming their newborn challenging, the mum-to-be, 30, has a name she'd like to use.
But her husband, 31, has admitted that it's 'killing him' to consider his son being named after his wife's ex.
In a post on Reddit, the man said: "We have been married two years. Before we got together she was with a guy named X for several years.
"They were on the verge of moving in together when she dumped him. I met her a few months after. They share a whole friend group and have always stayed in touch.
"They didn't talk every day but about twice a month would catch up via text or facetime. She never hid it from me or lied about it. I've met him a few times and he seemed like a standup guy. He even came to our wedding and said he had a great time.
"My problem started when he died in a terrible accident a few months later. I was on a business trip when my wife went to his funeral (she did invite me to go but I couldn't get out of it).
"She was broken up about it but no more or less than anyone who has had someone they care about die. I thought she was over it until we recently found out she was pregnant.
"We had more trouble than we expected and she never wanted to get her hopes up so last week was the first time we started talking baby names.
"She wants to give our son X's first or last name as his middle name. They're both common names so nobody would immediately make that connection but I don't want to think of her ex every time I look at my kid.
"I'm heartbroken that she wants to. She says he was such a big part of her life and we should honour his memory.
"Plus we wouldn't be together if she hadn't ended things with him. I said I'd think about it but I don't really know what to tell her. Our marriage is otherwise perfect. Should I let this go? How will I ever get past this?"
Hundreds of people commented, many users siding with the man and agreeing that it would make them feel uncomfortable.
One Redditor commented: "That's incredibly unfair to you. if he was such a big part of her life, why did she dump him?
"I would make that point to her."
Another said: "I would not be okay with my bf wanting to name our child his ex’s name.
"That is so not fair to you even if he passed away. She may need to see a therapist cause it sounds like she’s got some issues surrounding her ex."
A third commented: "There are many ways she can honor his memory privately. Having his name attached to your child is not one of them."
