We all want to be there for our loved ones biggest moments, but what happens when someone in your family invites you to their wedding, but commitments to your job mean you can't attend?
That's the situation one dad has found himself in, as he's had to tell his daughter that he can't come to her wedding in May because he doesn't have any paid holiday left to use so he can't get time off.
The bride-to-be has been left fuming at her dad over his poor planning, especially because the only solution he's come up with involves her pushing back her wedding until June - which she is unable to do.
The woman said her husband-to-be will be attending a 40-day training boot camp for his job in the second week of June, so the pair had planned a May wedding so they could tie the knot and have their honeymoon before he goes away.
But if they agree to her parents' demands, they'll only have a matter of days to themselves after their wedding before her husband goes to his training workshop and leaves her for over a month.
In a post on Reddit, the bride fumed: "So my fiancé and I, from the beginning of our wedding planning, have had a conflict with my parents over the date. We want to get married on May 13th, nearly three weeks prior to my fiancé starting a 40-day training at his job that is going to cause us to not be able to spend very much time together.
"My parents keep telling us that we need to move our date to sometime in early June (my fiancé’s training starts in the second week of June), solely because my dad doesn’t have any more vacation days available until June.
"This would cause a massive inconvenience for us to have to move our date, but my parents are now p***ed at me for refusing to do so."
Commenters on the post were firmly on the bride's side, as they said she and her partner should be the only ones who get to dictate when her wedding is.
They also pointed out that her chosen date is a Saturday when most people have time off of work anyway, and that with two months to go until the ideal date, her dad should be able to work something out with his employer so that he can attend.
One person said: "May 13th is a weekend and it is over two months away. Surely with that much notice and planning your dad can figure out a way to make sure he has May 13th off. Talk to a manager? Switch a shift? Buy a vacation day from a colleague? Something has got to be an option."
While another added: "You and your partner should decide when to get married. They're not wrong to ask, but they're wrong to insist and get angry when you don't comply. As a father, no way I would act like that.
"The reason they gave is also a very lousy one, I think your reason for choosing your date makes much more sense. Your parents sound entitled, it seems like they think that your wedding is about them. It isn't."
And a third wrote: "Your chosen wedding day is a Saturday in May that works best for you, the couple getting married. Your dad needs to figure out how to attend or not, but his issues don't get to control your wedding."
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