Dear Coleen
A couple my husband and I know very well have split up and it was a real shock. From the outside, they’re pretty much the perfect couple – good-looking, funny, lovely kids and so on.
Apparently, she’d been having an affair and her husband found out. He’s now asked my husband if I’ll speak to his wife and try to mediate – he’s angry with her and can’t really face speaking to her about the affair, but he has lots of unanswered questions.
Should I get involved or just stay out of it in the hope they can work something out between them? I don’t know what to do for the best.
What advice would you give to this reader? Have your say in the comment section
Coleen says
I guess if you’re friends with both of them, you could try to help and provide a bridge initially while they cool off.
But if she tells you to mind your own business, then you have to back off.
Perhaps suggest to the husband that he writes the questions down and puts them on an email to his wife.
However, he needs to be prepared that he might not want to hear some of the answers because they’re not the ones he’s looking for! And will it make him feel better and want to take her back?
Ultimately, they have to talk to each other and, depending on what they want to do about their marriage, get professional mediation or even counselling.
