About five months ago, I started seeing someone who had just left a long-term relationship. It was never intended to become a relationship, but it has grown over time. However, he has six kids, two teenagers from a previous marriage (one of whom lives with him full time), and four from the recent relationship (all under 10).
Obviously this man has been through a lot of upheaval and will, understandably, take some time to work things out. Lately, he’s been struggling with all of his priorities, and one of them is me. I’m not sure what my role in this should be, or if I should step away and leave him to work things out alone. Any advice?
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