I’m a 50-year-old male with an extraordinarily high sex drive. I have masturbated at least once every day since I was very young.
I had an ill-considered marriage to a woman who had a low sex drive which lasted 12 years; we divorced mainly over our sexual differences. I am a happy solosexual. While I occasionally have sexual intercourse with partners, my sexuality is most often and most pleasurably expressed through ‘edging’ masturbation sessions that can last anywhere from 15 minutes to 15 hours.
I have created a masturbation station equipped with everything I need, including an overstuffed comfy chair, a jar of Albolene, sex toys, a computer and a webcam. While I enjoy pornography, over the past 10 years, I have recorded videos of myself masturbating that span more than five hours. I am my own porn. I like the sound of my moans; I loop five clips of myself orgasming at the same time so the sounds meld into an echoic symphony of pleasure. It’s a multisensory, self-love experience.
While masturbation has been a positive force in my life, it has taken a position of prominence since I am without a partner, though I have been in some loving relationships since my divorce. They have all included masturbation – mutual or solo – in the sexual repertoire.
My research to validate the solosexual lifestyle has led to an enhanced appreciation. I have found an online community of solosexuals who share tips and techniques. I have never been more sexually satisfied than I am now.
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