Naming a baby isn't always an easy task, but it's one that requires input from both parents wherever possible to ensure they have an equal say in what their child is called.
But one mum has been urging her husband to rethink the name he's keen on using for their daughter because she feels it's too close to the name they gave their son, who passed away three years ago.
The woman explained she and her husband tragically lost their son, Dakota, when he was just a few days old after he was born prematurely.
And now the couple is thrilled to be expecting a little girl but can't agree on a name for her.
The woman's husband wants to call her Coda - but she thinks it's "odd" to name their daughter after their late son.
In a post on Reddit, the woman wrote: "I have been with my husband for four years, married for two. Three years ago, we had a premature baby. He lived in the NICU for five days hooked to a ventilator before we decided to let him go. He was less than a pound and was suffering with every breath he took.
"I'm currently 27 weeks pregnant. My husband and I were discussing baby names and my husband was set on the name Coda. Our son's name was Dakota. I told him it was a cute name but odd to name our daughter after our late son. I said it nicely.
"He said he was really hurt I didn't like the name and that he put a lot of thought into it and it sounded right. Then we couldn't agree on a girl's name."
The dad has been struggling to let go of the name he loves so much, but the mum has "completely shut it down", and has even said they may need to go back to therapy to discuss their feelings if they can't reach an agreement.
She added: "He kept bringing up Coda and how his heart was stuck on that name. I completely shut it down finally and said no, that is strange, and if you feel so strongly about that maybe we should go back to therapy over this.
"He's deeply upset over this and said I'm disregarding his part in the planning process. That's not the case, I'm trying to have him help me pick another name, together."
Commenters on the post were full of sympathy for both the woman and her husband, but many of them agreed that it wouldn't be right to give their daughter a name that reminded them of their late son - as it wouldn't be fair on them or their daughter.
One person said: "I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure it's been very hard on you and your husband. Have you tried telling your husband that it's not fair to your daughter to name her after her late brother?
"If her name is so close to his, she's going to feel his loss like a shadow over her childhood. Your daughter deserves to feel like her own person, not someone who needs to live up to a lost sibling, and not someone whose existence reminds her parents of the worst thing that ever happened to them.
"Keep Dakota's memory alive by telling your daughter about him when she's ready."
While another added: "You do not name a child after a child that died. That's telling that child that they are a replacement for the child that died. No one should be saddled with that."
And a third wrote: "This is absolutely a conversation to have with your therapist as a couple. Not here. No one is an a**hole here. You have your reasons and he has his."
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