I met my partner through a matrimonial app for the Asian community. After 18 months together, I discovered that he had been also seeing another girl for three years. She contacted me on social media and went into every detail. In seconds, my wellbeing was destroyed. This guy said he loved and wanted to marry me, but he told her the same. She also told me he had other girls on the go. I ended things immediately, despite his pleas to stay together. She stayed with him. I was humiliated and hurt but now I need to move on, but it’s not easy and people’s thoughts would be helpful.
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