Being in a relationship is never perfect all the time, and sometimes your partner will do something that drives you up the wall - even if they had the best intentions at the time.
But one woman has been left fuming after she discovered that rather than talking to her about his grievances, her husband instead takes his complaints to a group chat with his mates, where he regularly moans about his wife.
The woman said she picked up her husband's phone to get some of his friends' phone numbers for a surprise party she was planning when she stumbled across the messages, with one featuring her spouse moaning that she had been "talking at him" while he was trying to watch TV.
Despite being "really hurt" by the messages, some people have assured her that it isn't a big deal, as we all deserve an outlet to complain from time to time.
In a post on Mumsnet, the woman vented: "So I found out the hard way why you should not look at other people's phones. I'm planning a surprise party for my husband and so needed some of his friends' phone numbers I don't have. He has a group WhatsApp with about five of his close friends on there so I sneaked a look at his phone with a plan to take a photo of the phone numbers of those in the group.
"Anyway, I click on it and the last messages are from him being quite horrible about me. Basically [saying] 'does any one else's mrs just talk at them when you're trying to watch TV? She was having a conversation with someone, and it was f***ing me!' He wanted me to shut up and go away. [I'm] paraphrasing but basically not nice at all!
"I think I'm really hurt by it as I was telling him about what a great day our sons had had and how they were asking if he could come next time. Plus, I've just had a baby so we have zero time to have a conversation so I was just so happy to be chatting to him. I was talking to him for a max of five minutes then went to sort the baby.
"[Am I being unreasonable] for snooping and being upset? (It may be my post-natal hormones making me more sensitive) Should I say something? But then he knows I've looked at his phone although was innocent. Or [should I] just forget it [as] he's entitled to moan about me to his friends?"
Commenters on the post were split, as while some said her husband is entitled to a safe place to vent, others said they would be hurt in her position too.
One person said: "I think you may be overreacting a little. I often moan to my mum or my friends about my husband, it's not meant for him to see and obviously, I'm just having a bit of a rant. It's not an accurate reflection of how I feel about him 99 per cent of the time.
"I'd say as it wasn't something particularly personal, if he didn't use derogatory language then just let it go. We're all entitled to a moan and you were snooping on his phone."
While another added: "I would be upset, but I have to acknowledge that I have, on occasion, moaned about my husband to my friends. Not saying that's right, but I have."
But someone else disagreed, writing: "I wouldn't like it and wouldn't hold it inside. I think you need to talk with him about it."
"No party for this selfish f***er", a fourth stated, "In fact, ignore his birthday completely."
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