A woman has claimed that her husband of 17 years is making her sleep on the sofa because she's gained weight - and as a result has started snoring. The devastated woman said that it made her feel terrible that she'd been 'demoted' to the sofa, rather than being able to sleep in the bed she'd enjoyed for many years prior.
Taking to Mumsnet, she said that she was 'upset' that this situation had happened, and that she'd gained weight because of depression that stemmed from family bereavements over the past three years. She didn't think that it was fair she had to change where she slept.
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She wrote: "I’ve been with my husband for 17 years. Over the last three years I have gained about three stone in weight due to bereavements within the family, I have been very depressed.
"As a result I now snore and it disturbs my husband so much that I now sleep on the sofa. This makes me feel like c***. I understand that my husband needs sleep but I feel like a second-class citizen demoted to the sofa. Am I being unreasonable to be upset?"
People were wondering why it was down to just her to sleep on the sofa, with some suggesting it would be better for them to take it in turns to make it more fair.
One wrote: "Why do you have to sleep on the sofa? Can’t you take turns? Is there any way you could put another bed somewhere? My husband snores and I feel like killing him at times but I’d never just banish him to the sofa."
Other people tried to make some helpful suggestions, with one commenting: "That's hard and understandable why you feel like that. You are both equally important Not to be rude but would trying to lose some weight help not just physically but mentally due to what you have been through?
"Take it in turns. Stay in the bed together but could he use ear plugs and you use those strips for your nose. Have you seen a doctor and see what they say?
"Could he go up to bed half an hour earlier and get to sleep first? Try different sleeping positions, or yoga, and maybe try new pillows.
"This is a hard one as it's not your fault!"
Someone said: "Sleeping with a snorer is really difficult but you should have somewhere comfortable to sleep instead!"
Others thought that because she's started snoring, she should be on the sofa. Someone commented: "As the wife of a snorer, you are being unreasonable."
One wrote: "Seems your weight gain is psychological in nature as you say it's due to family loss, have you had any counseling/therapy/medical support of any kind to cope with what you're going through?"
Another was shocked that people were trying to blame the original poster, commenting: "Can't believe the posters here blaming you for your weight gain, so sad you lost your mum and brother, of course everything has gone to s***. That’s dreadful."
Could you sleep next to a snorer? Let us know in the comments.
