A woman has found herself at her wits' end thanks to her husband's frequent holidays - because he invites his friend instead of her.
Writing on Reddit she explained how her partner had headed on a fortnight-long holiday last autumn, something she approved of as it was planned well in advance.
"A month or so after that trip, he tells me they're planning another overseas trip for this spring," she wrote.
"This time, it's a place I've always wanted to go; we had previously started to plan a trip there ourselves, but decided it would have to wait until the kids were older. I told him I wasn't happy but somewhat grudgingly gave my blessing to what was supposed to be a 7-10 day trip."
She then discovered another week-long trip had been planned for the summer, again to a place they'd been eyeing up together.
It was then that her husband revealed both holidays would actually become three weeks each.
She added: "I got upset. I cried and told him I felt betrayed and abandoned, like he was leaving me here to raise the kids (both trips will now cause him to miss significant kid-related events he knew about before planning) while he just goes on doing what he wants and living his life without me.
"He found my response really hurtful, that I would act like he's abandoning me and the kids, and said that he deserves to have meaningful friendships and see beautiful things."
The hurt parent then asked if other people felt she was being unreasonable, and if it was making her seem envious of his holidays rather than it being a question of what was fair.
An overwhelming majority instantly took her side - and some speculated that the husband may actually be having an affair.
One person commented: "I do think you're not facing a harsh truth. This 'dear friend' is more than that. He has a live-in nanny and housekeeper who lets him to take off and travel whenever and to wherever at his leisure.
"Use his time away for a month to secure a job and nanny, then file for divorce and custody. I wish you well."
Another agreed: "His amount of travel is way too much. I strongly suspect your husband is having an affair with his 'friend' or using the friend as cover for an affair."
While a third added: "Sure looks like the 'friend' is either a lover or a wingman and you're the safe fallback. This goes well beyond any normal friendship.
"It's been escalating and there's no reason to think it won't continue to escalate.
"If you decide you want out, you can very possibly twist things to your advantage. Tell him that instead of two three-week trips, how about taking a single 5-week trip because that would be less disruptive. If he negotiates for a six-week trip, great!
"If he goes for that deal, use the five weeks to find a job, a lawyer, and a new place to live."
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