My husband of nine years and I end up arguing about everything. He recently took over a business. It has been challenging, but the business is growing and I’ve been supportive – financially and otherwise. But now a simple question turns into a fight. After a male former colleague said hello when we were at an event with our two kids, he went on about it for two days. I worry there is something underlying it all. I have a new job and was recognised for an accomplishment in my field. Nothing major, but nice. I worry that this might be making him feel emasculated. I don’t want to avoid speaking to him for fear of an argument. I enjoy his company generally, but I’m scared of him being defensive and angry.
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